Never invited...

[CocoChanel22]

I have no body to ask in RL so I'm hoping you guys can help me out here.

I've been with OH for 8 months, we live together and do mostly everything together. Except see his family. When it comes to seeing his family it's always 'I'm' meeting everyone for a curry tonight, 'I'M' going to my grandparents to see everyone etc etc...but when it's my family stuff it's always 'oh what time are we leaving' etc etc, he comes to everything with me and excludes me from everything he does. They all know about me, I'm on his fb page and all that jazz.

So I just want to know if I'm Being unreasonable to be annoyed by it, he knows I'm pissed off this morning but doesn't know why.

Is it him not inviting you or them?

Either way, he’s happy to dump you for his family.

Face it, you’re not good enough, dump him.

But you haven’t told us his explanation for this...????

I'd have to suggest a meet up, maybe just with 1-2 first like some friends or say a sibling.
Could be they are say racist or something and he is embarrassed. Does it involve a long travel and overnight stays and maybe no room to sleep (ie not allowed to share). Or he is just clueless And doesn't see why you'd want to come and you haven't said anything anyway.

I'd think he's got something to hide/has lied to you and is worried about being dropped in it by his family or worried about you asking questions? If it's not that then he's somehow ashamed of you or of them....I'd ask him in a very direct way OP!

Well stop asking him to your gatherings, then tell him why!

Living together after 8 months-? Might be part of the problem - you hardly know him after all.

Incidentally, if it would be 'impossible' to not invite him to your family events because he muscles his way in/assumes he's going/would have a hissy fit/you'd never be able to because he always knows where you're going in advance and wouldn't 'allow' you to arrange anything that he wasn't already included with and had ok'd - then THAT'S your issue - he's a controller, and this is just the start. He can have a separate life and choose how you share it - you can't, you get told what to do and he gets to choose.

If the latter applies, dump him right now. No discussion, no sorting out - after 8 months, if he is showing signs of being a controlling twat - cut your losses.

Are they religious/ old-fashioned and don’t believe in sex before marriage. Ie. Living together?

2 choices, really - either he's embarrassed of you, or embarrassed of them.

Either way, not great.

If it's you he's embarrassed of, then dump him quicksmart.
If it's them, then maybe find out why before you dump him.

Its simple you tell him your going out with your family not we. You point out if your a couple you should be included in events with his family. Whos he ashamed of you or them? would be my question for him. Tell him if his not commited to involving you in all aspects including family one of you should move out.