...as they are naturally with no permanent changes unless necessary for health and function in regard to what they look like and how they are in regard to personality?
It is scary how false people are. Plastic surgery, sculpting with make up. Putting on a face and act in social media. No wonder the stress levels are so high. It is horrifying to me how different people are in real life without props.
When is the right time to reveal yourself in relationships?
How do you know the person you are choosing to commit to in a relationship is who they say they are?
I live in a country where advertising is more real and the difference is noticeable.
Scars and bodily imperfections rarely airbrushed out. A mix of body shapes, skin colour and styles.
This post has been triggered by articles about children being taken into care due to gender choices. It is scary to me that permanent changes are being made physically and psychologically. I have also worked with people who have had gender reassignment and it didn’t ”fix” things for them. The problem seemed to be accepting themselves and being accepted not changing physically to do so.
I think you are born with your gender, female, male and in a few cases hermaphrodite or undetermined this shouldn’t affect your preferences or choices in life or how you are treated and I think shouldn’t be changed any more than nose shape unless affecting health and function.
Temporary changes are just a bit of fun expressing personality. They aren’t misrepresenting who you are or misleading others.
How awful to find out the person you developed a relationship with isn’t who they portrayed themself to be. We are entitled to our preferences and while we shouldn’t judge others on theirs should not be tricked into marrying someone who’s natural features might not be attractive to us.
The more we change our body shape for aesthetic reasons the more we support judgement on what others think we should look like. Who has a nose job purely for themselves? That is rare usually it is so they look “acceptable” in photographs.
My daughter dresses in stereotypical male clothing, says it is more comfortable, she has been encouraged to do as she wishes but I discourage negative statements about the body she was born with.
My other daughter has a large mole but tells me it is part of her, she is a quirky child but her confidence and non reaction to others opinion means she is rarely teased and not affected or changed when she is.
My son wears dresses on occasion, likes make up and nail polish. I had to speak to his teacher as he was encouraging teasing when he grew his hair and wore hair clips (in school colours as the girls do). He cut it when it was too hot. The children now accept him as he is mostly.
Many cultures accept the adoption of the opposite sex practices and lifestyle and people who choose that live happy lives without the need for surgery or concealment.
I encourage my children to be respectful of others rights and true to themselves. How they are does not need changing as long as not infringing on others. I have asked my son not to wear a dress to a wedding as the wedding is not about him and not ok to draw attention away from the bride and groom (he is a close relative) but if he wishes to go shopping in one fine. I know that sounds contradictory but we wouldn’t turn up in a track suit to a formal event and he can choose a floral shirt etc to express his preferences and personality.