My fiancé is older than me. He has three teenage girls. I moved in around 6 months ago, we get married next month. Basically I just don't know what to do. The girls are spoiled - and I totally get why. Their mum died when they were young and their dad has tried to compensate. Perfectly natural and I commend him for how he coped and got them all through it, he is a wonderful man (hence me marrying him!)
But all the girls now are at a particularly hormonal/temperamental age and they treat the house like a hotel. They refuse to pick anything up or put anything away after themselves, drop wet towels on the bathroom floor, leave empty packets all over the kitchen as well as used dishes and mugs etc all over the house.
When I wash their clothes and ask them to help me put them away (bc I don't know what belongs to whom) they roll their eyes and storm off like I've just asked them to wash a restaurant's worth of dishes or something.
They don't do a jot but expect lifts etc. at the drop of a hat and to pretty much be waited on hand and foot.
Fiancé gets stressed and fed up but he rarely sees his punishment threats through so it's frustrating for me... but I feel like I can't say anything
This is all new to me. Like I said I am younger than him and have never dated somebody with children before.
I've no idea what I can/can't do or say, or where the line is for me. Do I just accept this is how it is? Even when I'm being spoken to/looked at like a piece of trash? Do I just swallow my tongue when he folds and takes them out for dinner etc. after a number of empty threats bc one/all of them is acting up?
I love him - and the three of them, too I hasten to add - but my head is spinning today.