We moved into our house around 7 months ago. We rent our house and live next door to a family of 4, Mum, Dad, 2 children.
For context:
1st encounter with next door was when a parcel was delivered for them to our house, i was then on mat leave, so was home, happily received the parcel and dropped it round to them later that day when i saw signs of them being in and introduced myself- so far so good.
2nd encounter- another parcel delivered to ours, this time i didn't make it round to deliver it to them and was BF and settling DD when the Mum rang the doorbell, wasn't very quick to the door- baby on the boob, and she rang the doorbell constantly for around 5 minutes in one long riiiiiiiiiuiing until i answered. Annoying but hey ho!
3rd encounter was when they rang the doorbell to let us know they'd spoken to our landlord (who lived here before us and they are friends with) about having gutters cleaned "Hello, i've spoken to Sharon your whispers and looks awkward landlady" to arrange a date for it to go ahead. We decided on a date and i told the Mum that we'd be in to let the gutter cleaning people into our garden for access. Gutter cleaning day came and DD, DH and myself were in our lounge, saw 2 men stroll into our garden through our bolted gate, DH went outside to see what was happening and it transpired that the Dad from next door had taken it upon himself to unbolt our garden gate and let the gutter cleaning man in. DH let them know that we were in and gutter cleaning man was very apologetic and embarrassed that he'd bowled on into our garden without ringing our doorbell 1st, assuming it was all 1 house belonging to the Dad.
(I hope this is making sense!)
4th encounter- our downstairs loo has always behaved a bit strangely, refills slowly after flushing and occasionally gurgles- thought this was the norm. A few weeks ago our landlord text out of the blue asking if we have a toilet blockage- we say no, toilet being normally strange, but nothing unusual.
Fine.
A few days after that the local water board start doing minor work to unblock the shared external drain. Again fine. My DH works for the water board and knew that this was nothing to worry about.
On a chance meeting with the Mum from next door, in a brief conversation, she mentioned the toilet, said she'd been in touch with our landlord about it and in a very patronising way twice instructed me that 'nothing other than toilet paper must be flushed down the toilet' i told her that was fine by us, and that DH works for the water board, so we're well versed in toilet etiquette- haha.
So, this evening at about 11.15pm a friend of our neighbour's rang our doorbell to ask us to let our cat in as he had been meowing in their garden, have heard them outside in their garden, obviously having a bit of a house party. DH answered the door to her as i was asleep in bed. Doorbell woke both me and our DD up. Neighbour's friend clearly drunk.
AIBU to be annoyed? And ask if i should pop round and just ask them, politely, to leave us alone?! I don't want a war with the neighbours, but what i perceive to be their odd/ invasive/ patronising behaviour is making me feel uncomfortable.