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Will I have to pay for ex

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Cookiemonsterssister · 15/03/2019 22:39

Name changed as outing. Ex is taking me to court as I stopped his access to the children. All was fine when we first split, we mutually agreed how often he would have them (over night contact) then he started drinking again...he's an alcoholic, has been since we got together (yes, I know I was a complete idiot having children with an alcoholic, but it's done) anyway, once he starts drinking, it spirals and so the children are not safe, so I let him have supervised contact (I'm there-nothing set up legally at this point but not as much as previously). Ex also has severe addiction to painkillers and sleeping pills. Takes shedloads. 15-30 painkillers a day..how he's not accidently killed himself I don't know. Ex kept arriving to see childrem clearly with alcohol in his system. Ex gets aggressive when I say he's not seeing them because he's drunk etc. Get to the point I've absolutely reached my limit of him talking to me like a piece of crap when I've bent over backwards so the children can still see their father. I stop contact completely and ask him to take me to court..I can't handle this on my own anymore, it's too stressful. Got court next week. Cafcass are recommending he does hair strand testing for drink and the prescription drugs he takes. Neither of us have legal aid or a solicitor. Who will have to pay for the hair strand test? Aibu to think I should not have to pay? I'm a single mother, I simply can't afford that expense. But neither can he. I have no problem with my children seeing their father, I just want them to be safe when they're with him. Children 4&6yo.
Thanks.

OP posts:
Streamside · 15/03/2019 22:44

The court case is happening because he wants access so is it not logical that he pays whatever the costs are. Paying for tests which are likely to not be in his favour could be the wake up call he needs.

llangennith · 15/03/2019 22:49

Can you arrange the he can only have contact, supervised, at a Family Centre?

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