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Doomongering colleague

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 17:17

This woman at work... lovely but loves to doomonger. And look all self-satisfied when she does it. Two examples from yesterday were "noo young kids are easy, you wait until the real trouble starts" and then "it's all downhill after 50, you'll get fat". I hate it when people do this sort of thing and I consciously try not to do it. Am thinking though that with age comes experience and she probably has a point. What do you think? Can I poke her with a shitty stick or is she right?

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 15/03/2019 17:18

Do you work with me OP?

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 17:21

Ha ha maybe! And you really are lovely!!

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Florencenotflo · 15/03/2019 17:22

I work with one of these people. Anything I say she will put a negative spin on it.

I think you could honestly find the solution for world peace and she would find a negative in it! 😂

fc301 · 15/03/2019 17:24

Fun sponge

Chottie · 15/03/2019 17:26

I used to work with someone who was the Prophet of Doom.

The company was restructured and she left. It was wonderful not to have to listen to her moan and complain every working day......

Confusedbeetle · 15/03/2019 17:27

Does she talk about Brexit? You can hang any bad news on Brexit

cranstonmanor · 15/03/2019 17:29

Oh one of those! I had one who actually told me at my mums funeral (I was young and in my twenties and trying to stay polite) that my grief was nothing yet now, it would get so much worse over the next four years like hers was and I should book an appointment with a psychologist. Thankfully an understanding aunt rescued me. Who does such a thing!?!

greenflamingo · 15/03/2019 17:35

I worked with one of these gloom spotters. “You’re pregnant? Right. Well there goes your figure and your life.” She used to book far flung holidays and then predict typhoons and death.... we’d get a fortnight of peace and then she’d be back complaining of stifling heat, sunburn and peril at sea. She left.... and I kind of miss her peculiar brand of misery.

BloomsButtons · 15/03/2019 17:44

DH works with one of these in a customer facing roll. She's forever telling customers predictions of doom, gloom and misery. She's also fond of telling people how they should feel or behave. Total nightmare.

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 17:51

Blimey she's sounds fun compared to some of these. What's the motivation for it do you suppose?

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 15/03/2019 17:56

That's awful @Cranstonmanor. What an absolute cow Shock

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 17:58

Yes ditto... @cranstonmanor what is the matter with some people? Sorry for your loss Flowers

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Ilove31415926535 · 15/03/2019 18:02

I had one of them. I didn't kill her, honest, but I was glad when she fucked off moved away! Energy vampire was the term I used, she could (and I think enjoyed doing so) suck all the life and fun out of a room. She's gone now, and people have commented on how nice and light the atmosphere is now!
Flowers cran

Ilove31415926535 · 15/03/2019 18:03

And should you get hold of a shitty stick OP? Poke away! MN says so Grin

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 18:13

produces poking device from sleeve Grin

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Iflyaway · 15/03/2019 18:35

What's the motivation for it do you suppose?

Jealousy? Frustration? Bitchiness?

Basically, not wanting to look at their own shitty life and therefore project it out into the world.

I'm way over 50 and not fat.

It's just a bunch of cliches.

iVampire · 15/03/2019 18:43

I’m semi-separated from DH, and one contributing factor is that he’s a complete joy sucker.

It took a surprising amount of time before I realised how awful a mindset it is, and how much it had pulled me down

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namechangedbutneedadvice · 15/03/2019 19:10

Good for you @iVampire

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Chottie · 18/03/2019 17:29

Well done Vampire and enjoy the rest of your life to the full :)

FriarTuck · 18/03/2019 18:00

Oh go on, you can have some fun with her. Think of it as a game of Top Trumps and every time she issues the Voice of Doom try and better it. You'll have an entertaining time AND it will keep your brain alert because not only will you be watching out for it but you'll have to think on your feet to come up with something better. You can alternate facial expressions between 'the end is coming' and 'bright copper kettles and warm woollen mittens' just to confuse her. Maybe even introduce some family members who are also Harbingers of Doom - 'Great Aunt Gladys who always said that small children were trouble.... right up until a 3 year old tripped her up at the top of the stairs and she fell and broke her neck. But Grandfather John always said that stairs were a bad idea and he was proved right'.

Lifecraft · 18/03/2019 20:48

What's the motivation for it do you suppose?

Experience! Life's a battle and none of us are going to make it out alive.

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