I have a childhood friend who has moved away to Canada and build a life there. We used to be close but I have gone off her circa 12 years ago when it became clear she was very competitive. I don't want to go into too much detail but for the longest time I felt almost as if her life's purpose became to one-up people around her.
She seems very keen on keeping in touch and initiates 90% of our online chats - though she disappears and resurfaces, depending on how things are going for her, mostly to brag.
I have some sentiment towards her due to our shared childhood experiences but to be honest, I would not be too upset if she never spoke to me again.
Now, a few months ago she started talking about coming over to visit us this autumn. I was pretty clear that it would not work for my family. We have a small house, and just would not be able to accommodate her and her entire family of five. I told her to come in a year or two as we are buying a bigger property then (collecting for deposit now.)
Yet, every time she talks to me she mentions how lovely it will be to see us this autumn, asking me about the closest airport, how her kids can't wait to meet mine etc. I just don't say anything to this and change the subject each time, but she won't budge!
AIBU to push her away? She knows my address and I start to worry she'll just show up on my doorstep at some point!