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Are his jobs more important?

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nomit16 · 13/03/2019 17:30

So I am primarily a stay at home mum with two flexible cleaning jobs (I clean two village halls). I only get the timetables for the month ahead a month before (so I’ve just got April’s timetable).

My OH works shifts so it means he can still be a self employed builder. He is the breadwinner but I need a job to be able to afford our sons clubs, run my car, pay for food, etc. He has loads of work booked in around his shift work and is due to go to his mums to finish building a wall, he’s booked this for the weekend at the beginning of the Easter holidays. His mum is two hours away and I’ve just been informed I need to be around to clean one of the village halls on the Saturday night. He also said that if we go later in the week, our children won’t see their grandparents as they’re working. But we could get to stay there for longer if we didn’t go at the weekend.

He’s now complaining that I should use annual leave to be away during this weekend, when in fact he could rearrange the building work at his mums for the first week of the Easter holidays, but has apparently booked in other building work, so cannot do this?

Am I in the wrong to feel annoyed that he think his work is more important than mine? He’s pretty much asking me to risk my job to go to his mums. I have told him to go without me. I’d like to add we have two boys, one at school, the second is almost 2 and currently comes with me cleaning. My OH doesn’t think that this is hard work, to clean a fairly large village hall with my youngest in tow. I manage, but he seems to think I’ve got it easy.

Sorry for a long post, I just want others opinions.

OP posts:
ThreeBagsFullofWool · 13/03/2019 18:43

He's being unreasonable and disrespectful about the importance of your contributions.

iamruth · 13/03/2019 18:46

No, he is being unreasonable. It works both ways. It is possible to accommodate both jobs and regardless of salary both are important just tell him you are working and like when he is working you both need to find a way to accommodate this.

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