AIBU to think this may be anxiety ?

[RollingRivers]

Constant chatter yet scared to read in front of a class. Lack of concentration , nervous laughter , leg bouncing or messing with a pen , scared about new situations , doesn’t like doing things on her own ( has to be with a friend) , cannot make decisions and always needs somebody’s input , binges food , worried about bad grades , forgetfulness , procrastination. Not about me , just things I could think of from the top of my head so do make an appearance in her life quite regular some more than others

doesn’t like doing things on her own ( has to be with a friend)

This definitely is anxious and agoraphobic behaviour IF she avoids doing things on her own, rather than just preferring company.

Generally, avoidance and physical sensations (pounding heart, tenseness) would indicate anxiety.

Is this a DC?

Yes it’s a DC , one example of the thing you pointed out could be that she was sat in the car waiting for a friend as she didn’t want to walk into football alone. I think she just doesn’t like situations which could be classed as awkward like not knowing where to sit or something

Social anxiety?

Sounds more like adhd to me. Talk to school senco and gp.

I’m not sure about social anxiety , I’m on,y familiar with generalised anxiety. She’s sociable with people she knows , like very sociable but only if she knows them well. They don’t have to be besties but they have to have spoke twice before or something

ADHD , really ? Don’t really know anything about tbh so I’m not being rude when asking

Bouncing leg, fidgeting, procrastinating, difficulties making decisions, anxiety about fitting in so needs others she knows to feel secure, are all adhd indicators. There are online checklists you can look at and a wealth of information. Generally targeted at boys as most adhd teens are male, but still helpful. Girls tend to mask more and force themselves conform with more success. Girls are definitely under diagnosed.

Even if she's not, some of the strategies may still be useful. I use adhd strategies for organisation and time manager very successfully.

Wow never realised how similar adhd and anxiety can be. Yes thanks I’ll take a look at those checklists

Anyone else got any opinions ?? Not exactly great at mental health and know absolutely nothing if I’m honest

I'm a 26 year old female and suffer quite badly with anxiety.

Constant chatter yet nervous to read in front of a class - I'm the same, I am absolutely not anxious around friends or even some people I barely speak to in my college class that I'm just used to being around, in fact to my friends I'm sure I come across as quite confident, ask me to do a presentation or read in front of the class - forget it - just the thought of it makes me panic.

Lack of concentration - if I am feeling anxious, it is impossible for me to concentrate with all the other anxious thoughts and scenarios and worries going on in my brain.

Nervous laughter - I have never noticed this personally.

Leg bouncing or messing with pen - I do the leg bouncing, jiggling, shaking. Can't tell you why but I do it. I think it is a bit of a distraction or comfort perhaps.

Scared about new situations - yes but I almost think that's normal, isn't everyone?

Doesn't like doing things on her own (has to be with friends) - I experience this in the aspect of, for instance, starting a new gym class, I absolutely couldn't do this on my own, i would need to have a friend with me for comfort. But I can manage to go to the supermarket myself etc.

Cannot make decisions - I have never noticed this personally.

Binges food - yes, daily.

Worried about bad grades - yes I worry about not passing assessments and not progressing to uni. But once again, I feel this is a very normal worry that someone not suffering anxiety might also have.

Forgetfulness - when my anxiety is particularly bad, I can become forgetful, I think this comes under the same reason as not being able to concentrate. There's so many thoughts, scenarios and worries in your head, it's hard to keep everything straight in there.

Procrastination - I have always been a procrastinator, before I suffered anxiety. And I know plenty people without anxiety that procrastinate too so could be unrelated.

Hope this helps some.

Thanks yes this does help , I just wish she would open up to me more so I could understand the symptoms if that shts u what to call them

Didn’t mean for it to sound bad there , meant not sure if I can call them symptoms if she hasn’t been diagnosed with anything yet