To go NC with stepdad

[MumOfOne92]

So, my mum has just dropped the bombshell that she and her husband are getting divorced. Apparently the process isn't starting yet and they don't when. She's told me not to say anything.

My issue is, ny little girl has had my stepdad in her life as 'Grandpa' since day 1 but she's only 6 months old so I am wandering if it is best to go no contact with him straight away while she's too young to notice?

It's a shame, because it will make her family that little bit smaller when she is already missing one whole side to her family because of hee absent father.

Really don't know what is for the best.

What is your relationship with him like personally. Surely if you want him in your and your daughter's lives and you like him, he should be, regardless of your mother?

Is he someone you’re likely to remain close to? If not, better let the relationship drop sooner rather than later.

@MaFleur we never got along before my little girl was born, we couldn't stand each other but since she was born he has done a lot for us. I'm a bit lost to be honest.

@LEDadjacent not me no, but it's not about me, well other than the reduced amount of family support, it's about my little girl and a tiny bit about the others (stepdad and his adult daughters) who have bonded with her.

Don't know why she bothered to tell me just yet until it actually happens, it's put me in quite an awkward position.

That is certainly trickier, but she is still very young. Why don't you just see how it goes, and maybe let things drift, rather than go full on NC. With bigger gaps in seeing him, your baby DD will be unlikely to notice.

@MaFleur that might be an idea but whilst she's very young I thought it would be easier.

This is not a NC situation. Just let it dwindle.

@DuchessOfPhysics Thank you, think I might.