To think I must be brain damaged or something?

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I was supposed to meet DP after work in X town 6pm. At 5.30 he tells me he's early and just mooching around Y town (miles away!!). I call him in a panic and he insists that I told him Y this morning. I have no recollection of saying this. DP is very annoyed at me and now we're just going home.

There have been several other lapses of memory in my life. I used to get really annoyed at staff at a cafe because they always brought me cheese and beans jacket potato instead of beans and coleslaw. I just couldn't understand what was so difficult about it. Once I went with my friend and after ordering she asks if I had given in and ordered cheese and beans - again I had no recollection of doing this.

I once had feedback from an interview that I kept saying that I worked 5-9 and not 9-5 and again I have no recollection of saying this.

The point in making is that I seem to say things I don't mean and don't remember doing this. It's unsettling. There are many more examples but these are the only ones that come to mind.

I don't understand why this happens to me. Does any one else her this or have an explanation?

It sounds like a lifelong quirk that is not impairing you too much - good now to know it happens, you can ask DH and colleagues to double check or write down arrangements.

OP have you had your thyroid checked? I go through phases of saying the wrong word and I have an underactive thyroid. I'm medicated but apparently it's common. I'll say to DP, 'can you load the fridge' when I mean dishwasher or 'where's the iron?' when I mean the hoover. Sometimes I hear myself say it but the majority of the time I will swear blue I said hoover but I actually said iron

The other day I loaded the washing machine and shut the door then stood up and started pressing buttons on the microwave and turned that on instead of the washing machine

Yesterday I approached my front door with keys in hand and couldn’t for the life of me get in. Dh approached from behind me and said ‘Er...what ARE you doing?’...because I had the car fob in hand and was pointing it at the door handle and pressing the button 🤦🏻‍♀️

I was like this until I stopped using my phone as much!

I have dyspraxia and I do things like that all the time

I'm like this because I have 3 kids, am constantly sleep deprived, have a complicated set of arrangements for the kids in my head and loads of stuff to remember and worry about. DH laughs at me...but has just started to do it too.... he's just started a new job and is finding it stressful. You may have one of the other things listed.....but if you only do it very occasionally you might just be human.

I'm another one thinking dyslexia

I had this, it was a thyroid issue.

I have memory issues at times, I once told my DH that the tumble dryer was broken, he went to look at it and informed me that it was not broken, then asked me to show him what I did that made me think it was broke. I put the washing in and shut the door...... and said ‘see it’s not working’ ....he then ...pointed out that you have to press the ON button to get it to work .......he thought it was really funny but I couldn’t get the process right in my head ....it was all cloudy and muddled.

For me it’s Menopause and medication that’s causing it. Get to the doctors and get them to run some tests, please don’t self diagnose.

Any history of trauma?

As others have said it could be dyslexia.

Most of the time no one would know I am dyslexic because I've learned ways to work around it but I find if I am tired, rushing or stressed I get words muddled when I talk, its ok writing because I make a conscious effort to slow down and think and avoid words I can't spell but sometimes talking i swap words over. Particularly for some bizarre reason sausages and potatoes, Brighton and Eastbourne, and certain names. I don't know I have done it either until someone points it out.

It could be a developmental disorder it sounds a bit like dyspraxia to me or maybe dyslexia.

Early onset dementia is anyone under 65. The OP is hardly a likely candidate for that.

I do and say daft things when my brain fog is particularly bad - I have chronic fatigue syndrome. I think you'd have noticed if you have CFS/ME though!

Could be very very briefly asleep or having an absence seizure?

I'd speak to a Doctor if you are concerned.

I do things like this and I always have. I think it's getting a little worse now I'm older but I'm not really sure. I've never attributed it to anything other than being the type of person who can sometimes be easily distracted ( it always it depends what it is) and to me being not articulate. I trip over my words a lot. 💁🏼‍♀️. For example I asked for basmati vinegar in a restaurant the other day instead of balsamic. I didn't notice but unfortunately my husband did 😂😂
I'm not sure why everything has to have a 'reason' or 'diagnoses'. Surely the law of averages says that some of us have to be a bit slower at some things than other people.
I say left for right and right for left all the time and I seem incapable of retelling stories correctly or remembering names. Other people don't seem to struggle at all.

I'm definitely not stupid I'm just not good at certain things.

Saying 5-9 instead of 9-5 is exactly the type of thing I would say and would not notice.

It doesn't help that the rest of my family are all bright and articulate.