So this morning as I was walking back up the road (quiet cul de sac) after taking my children to school, my neighbour who lives at the top (late 60's, Head of the neighbourhood, chief gossiper) opens her window and shouts to me "When's your baby due?"
I'm NOT pregnant.
I'm slightly over weight (but only slightly and have actually LOST weight recently).
I just answered "I'm not having a baby".
She then put her hand to her mouth in exaggerated shock, and said "Oh. Really? We all thought you were!" Then she added with a laugh, "You've just put weight on then have you!"
I didn't say anything and went into the house.
I'm guessing she's drawn that conclusion because I've recently started wearing tunic style dresses with think black tights (not maternity ones obviously but she wouldn't know that) just because I feel comfortable in them (I don't feel right in jeans or trousers. That's just my preference).
I'm not going to change the way I dress as that's the style I feel happy/ comfortable with.
I have so much going on at the moment and currently having counselling as I suffer from depression and panic attacks, so I am trying to brush this one under the carpet as it really is a minor issue in the grand scheme of things.
I just wondered if anyone else had ever been in this situation (where someone asked if you were pregnant and when you were not) and how you dealt with it.
I know I would never dream of asking another woman when her baby was due unless I was 100% certain she was having one!
After I came back into the house, I saw her doing her rounds, going around all the houses (I'm guessing to tell them the news that I'm not pregnant after all and "just put weight on").
For the record I'm 43 and a single mum.
Full time carer to my youngest who is severely disabled.
No reason for anyone to jump to the conclusion I would be having another baby (apart from the tunic dresses which I refuse to give up wearing as I love them).
AIBU?
To think this woman is rude?
redrobin212 · 11/03/2019 13:10
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There's only one response to a comment like this, inspired by cricket sledging...
'Yeah, every time I shag your husband he gives me a biscuit'.
I'm so sorry. That's really really nasty. It really is HER issue and speaks to the kind of person she is. Nothing to do with what you are wearing or size or shape you are.
Especially as you mention you are a single parent, and clearly have a lot to deal with with your child with disabilities, there's just no way it's an innocent mistake.
I'd feel crap hearing that, no matter what I told myself but try not to dwell on her nastiness, if you can 
Horrible woman! When she says they all thought you were, what she means is she's the one going around telling people you are. Tell her to piss off next time she says something gossipy.
I was 38 weeks pregnant when we moved in to our current house (very obviously pregnant, had an 11lb baby in there) and my new neighbour still faked shock and said oh I didn't realise you were pregnant congratulations! when I mentioned my due date 
lovely lady so she is.
On the other hand after I had DS1 we were on the bus to the hospital (DS1 was in neonatal unit for some time) and some random man asked when I was due. He laughed hysterically when I said I'd already had the baby and gave me a back handed apology saying 'sorry but you still look a bit pregnant don't you'. Thought DH was going to floor him.
It’s one thing her asking if you were pregnant but I’m 
and a bit 
that she SHOUTED THIS OUT THE WINDOW.
What a fruit loop.
Which is probably what your neighbours really think of her tbh OP, try not to let her upset you.
If you had the nerve...
You - knock knock
Her - Hello what do you want?
You - Well just to check you are ok really
Her - ?
You - Well you were so weirdly rude this morning. Not like you, I've always thought you were a really nice woman. Was there something wrong? Do you feel ok?
Her - !
You - If you ever need someone to talk to just come over. You've been looking as if you've got a lot on your plate recently, you know not really looking your best but I didn't want to say anything.
Her -!!!
You - Don't worry about this morning by the way. I don't think anyone else saw you. It did make me laugh by the way, reminded me of my old granny who would come out with stuff like that, sitting there with no teeth making rude comments! Of course - that was before she had to be taken away.
Her - !!!!!!!
You - Anyway I'm sure it isn't anything like that, not implying anything, I just thought you sounded stressed. (quick arm squeeze) anyway you know where I am hun eh?
How rude, try and just ignore her and definitely keep wearing what you like. 
Recently a man offered me his seat on the tube and I said no I'm fine thanks, getting off in a minute and he said your entitled to the priority seat and pointed to the picture of a pregnant woman...I just said no I'm fine, still stung a bit!
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