To think OH should take the day of?

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I'm very ill drowsy and tired and a really bad migraine every time I bend down my head goes so dizzy I feel like I'm going to collapse. I don't feel safe driving like this. Ds needs to go to nursery and I need to go to the doctors and the hospital for a blood test. I've been ill for a while now but It's getting much worse.

He said he will drop me at my mums but that is no help because my mum can't drive.

A £60 one way taxi fare isn't 60 miles, it's more like 35 miles daytime off peak rate. In lots of rural areas you need to pre-book taxis the day before if you have a fixed appointment to get to, or wait for potentially well over an hour until a taxi will come out.

I have had to cancel GP appointments in the past because I have woke. Up with a migraine. There is no way I could get a taxi anywhere while suffering with one.

I would cancel the blood tests for today tbh. I know it's important but there is such a thing as being too unwell to go to the docs.

Take care OP

YES, absolutely - he is a parent, some of this falls on him if you are out of action.

We really need to do something about the fact that the default setting for parenting is 'the woman will do it', to the point that certain men are left scratching their heads about what to do when she is ill. FFS! It's 2019!!

It's very, very difficult for me to persuade DH to take a day off without prior planning - he has a job that involves appointments and they tend to be set up in advance. Mine doesn't, so I generally have 'give' in my day. We are piling on DP without knowing enough about his position.Say he is a dentist - not so easy to cancel a day's worth of appointments. But I have to say, unless the LW is just someone who's sick all the time and tells everyone so, I do not like the sound of these symptoms at all. Bending over head pain suggests blood pressure issues or something nasty going on in her head. I'd def get a proper looking at, but fix it up in advance so DP can plan.

My DH has taken days off (worked from home) to care for ill children whilst i have worked but I can't imagine a situation where we would take a day off if each other was ill? Only perhaps if admitted to hospital. I say this as a manager as well. It wouldn't be looked upon too favourably. But we are fortunate to normally be well and have minimal sick time. I realise others are not x

For the judgmental posters: migraine can be severely debilitating. I doubt the OP can barely think straight let alone do anything practical to sort out her problems. I collapsed several times with migraine, my speech was also affected to the extent that no one could understand me. Sometimes you can push through it, other times you honestly can't.

OP I am glad your partner has taken the day off to help you, but when you are over this attack you need to make a plan of action for the next time it happens. Is there another nursery mum living close to you who would take your DS in an emergency? Could your Mum get a taxi, collect DS and take him to nursery? If you put your minds to it I expect there is a solution.

I imagine your migraine is exacerbated by the blood flow caused by your genetic condition, so sadly it will be an ongoing problem that needs sorting.

Hope you feel better very soon

@Decormad38

This idea of migraines annoys me. I have 1-3 migraines a year and I cannot see for half the da, I'm often sick and my head pulses. You can't do anything with a migraine.

@WillyNilly00

I agree you cannot do anything with a migraine that includes typing on a phone/iPad/computer.

I have recently been incapacitated due to a fall and my DH was able to leave early etc in order to take DS to football/school etc but not to look after me, I am a big girl.

@WillyNilly00 - I have migraine and I can function. Not as well as I do without them, but I do. In fact, I'd rather do anything to distract me from the pain. I take sumatriptan which helps a lot. Propanolol hasn't helped prevent my migraines.

Please don't tell me and others that I cannot have migraine just because my symptoms and the way I cope are different from yours.

Migraine attacks typically last a maximum 72 hours. My concern for Decormad's DH was that it was something else. He's being tested and scanned so I imagine the doctors have some idea what it is.

@geekone - that's your experience. Don't tell me and others that we don't have migraines!

have recently been incapacitated due to a fall and my DH was able to leave early etc in order to take DS to football/school etc but not to look after me, I am a big girl.

Aww bless you. Have a fucking medal 🏅

How pathetic of these other people

Who lives 60 miles away from the nearest hospital? Unless of course she is going to a hospital that specialises in the illness she has. I would not (when having young children) live 60 miles away from a hospital.

It was £60 taxi fare not 60 miles away. I live nearly 40 miles away from my nearest general hospital.
Its not uncommon outside cities fgs. Blame the council who decided to put it there nearer the big towns instead of closer to 'my' side of the county when they built the new hospital and closed down the smaller ones in the area and the walk ins.

Who lives 60 miles away from the nearest hospital? Unless of course she is going to a hospital that specialises in the illness she has. I would not (when having young children) live 60 miles away from a hospital

Millions of people @Lou670 - we don't all live in a city or large town with lots of amenities.

I live about 45 minutes drive from the hospital on a good day. It could be closer to an hour with traffic or roadworks. That's life when you live rurally. What do you think all the millions of parents who live in villages or small towns do? They just cope. We don't have a walk-in clinic or OOH here either. That's also 45 minutes away.

@wowfudge I didn’t say other type of migrains were not possible. I also have 72 hour migraines where all I want to do is cry and sleep where I can cope and do things but then I wouldn’t need my DH to take time off work I would be able to deal with my child. You can either have a debilitating migraine that does not allow you to post online or look after your children or you have one of the many other kind of migrains that the pain is prolonged and depressing but you can plod on and do what needs done. Which one does the OP have.

You're backtracking @geekone because that is not what you posted.

This idea of migraines annoys me. I have 1-3 migraines a year and I cannot see for half the da, I'm often sick and my head pulses. You can't do anything with a migraine.

Ffs. you can’t do anything with a migraine, some of us manage to do things with some of our migraine attacks.