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To want to hide food?

150 replies

Bellebill · 10/03/2019 21:10

I’m sure this happens in other households but it’s starting to really get on my nerves now...
my husband who is quite a tall big fella and naturally eats more than me (and so he should what with daily calorie intake) seems to eat all the food! I’m talking cereal, multipacks of crisps etc. I’ll eat a uite a normal size bowl of cereal but his will be a mountain of special K etc so that a box will have gone in maybe 3 days (!) and he eats a packet of crisps (maybe more than one) every day if they’re there! Don’t even get me started on biscuits! I won’t necessarily eat crisps every day but maybe every couple of days I might fancy a pack, but he will never stop to think maybe he should leave a pack for me since he’s already cleared 5 out of a 6 x multipack! It’s driving me mad and I’ve started to think I might hide food for myself so that when I fancy something it’s actually there rather than racing to eat something as soon as it’s bought! He challenged me when I moaned this evening “well what am I supposed to do?” Baffles me how selfish men are!

Please tell me I’m not alone and you too live with greedy pigs?!

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AutumnCrow · 10/03/2019 21:40

Sounds like this is a common problem

Only if you live with a twat, tbh

JaneEyre07 · 10/03/2019 21:45

I share your pain OP. DH is a pig. And over the last few years, he's developed a habit of barely eating during the day but starts at 6pm and eats all evening. He leaves the veg from the healthy tea I will have cooked and off he goes. Toast. Cereal. Biscuits. Crisps. Cereal bars. Never mind if it leaves nothing for our DDs to take to work or they can't make a sandwich. He's put around a stone on and it's all on his stomach.

At Christmas, we were bought some lovely boxes of chocolates/biccies but I didn't try any of them. All gone by the 27th.
Finding he'd hidden the wrappers from eating the gluten free stuff that I buy for our granddaughter was the final straw Angry So I went to Argos and bought a locking file box, so I can keep things in there for the DC and grandkids. It's nothing but greed.

jaseyraex · 10/03/2019 21:48

I have this issue (although DH is good enough to not eat any of my treats at least). My DH is tall and thin, thinner than me! He's actually underweight according to bmi and I honestly don't know how because he eats like a fucking pig. He will happily eat an entire packet of biscuits every single night, along with a packet or two of crisps and probably a chocolate bar (share size, not small) as well as having a mountain of whatever I've made for dinner on his plate. The amount he eats is ridiculous, I've never met anyone like him. But I'm also a bit jealous because it doesn't go anywhere on him and he doesn't even bloody exercise! DS2 seems to be taking the tall and thin thing from him, I'm dreading teenage years if he ends up the same.

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Bellebill · 10/03/2019 21:48

Oh my word your replies are hilarious!!! Thanks for the humour! Look let’s be honest I’m just have a right old whinge and you’re right @sickofthemoaning I do need to keep this real! I like the idea of him squeezing into children’s clothing though! 😂😂😂 he’s a good man and I love him dearly but sometimes there are the little things... guess we are all human, husband included 😜

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Usuallyinthemiddle · 10/03/2019 21:48

You want him to ask you if he can have a snack???

Sun5hinE · 10/03/2019 21:50

Our rule is 'if you didn't buy it, you can't finish it. You have to leave at least one or a portion' it works really well. Grin

OrigamiZoo · 10/03/2019 21:52

I hide food in the cleaning cupboard, no chance he will find it.

starsparkle08 · 10/03/2019 21:59

You sound batshit to be honest . Probably best living alone

Absolutepowercorrupts · 10/03/2019 22:00

I don't think op is saying he has to ask to eat food. I'd be really pissed off if treats disappeared, so yes go ahead and hide them. My husband says he doesn't like dark chocolate, but guess what my stash of dark chocolate evaporates on a regular basis.

UnalliterativeGeorge · 10/03/2019 22:01

I just buy the type of crisps he doesn't like to get round this!

Pinkkahori · 10/03/2019 22:02

Sounds similar to my husband. He is very fit and active and seems to have endless capacity for food without gaining weight.
He eats everything in the house. He just grazes without thinking.
It's very annoying because when he does the shopping he doesn't buy junk and he says there's no need for it yet he eats whatever I buy.
Things have improved slightly since I had a go at home for eating half a chocolate bar I had put away for myself even though there was other chocolate in the house. He said he didn't want a full bar. I was really angry because he bypassed the rest to go to the cupboard I keep my baking ingredients in and took my favourite choc I was keeping for myself.
It sounds petty but it's so thoughtless and selfish to help yourself without considering anyone else.

springydaff · 10/03/2019 22:03

He might have an eating disorder.

Interesting how everyone has concerns for eating disorders that involve undereating but contempt for eating disorders that involve overeating.

He may of course be 'greedy' but not necessarily. Sugar/simple carbs can be highly addictive. Some people just can't have them in the house.

7Pip · 10/03/2019 22:08

DH will ask 'have we anything in, I'm not hungry but I'm peckish?' Like the big gobshite that I am, I will then go to the cupboards, survey what's in, and give him a recount of what we have.

On the day before shopping delivery arrives, he will go across to the shop for me because I suddenly NEED icecream.

MyKingdomForBrie · 10/03/2019 22:11

Well I wouldn't take the last of something I knew my dh would want some of but I might eat all the rest of it! It is annoying when they scarf five out of six of a multi pack or something but then sometimes I'm the one who does it so apart from moaning about it I wouldn't really do anything about it.

I do occasionally hide stuff though as I know he will get hit by the munchies if he's up late and potentially demolish all the nice snacks (I don't buy many snacks as I know we'd just eat however many were bought!

MissConductUS · 10/03/2019 22:14

DS, now 19 years old and at uni, is 6'2", rows crew and can put away the groceries like a pro. He would happily eat two dinners if offered. But he knows that if mum has a pint of Ben & Jerry's in the freezer, it's off limits.

Buy in bulk. Join a Costco if there's one in your area. You are not alone in this.

DemelzaPoldarksshinerrefiner · 10/03/2019 22:16

Emergency chocolate in the freezer.

cyclecamper · 10/03/2019 22:17

My stepson does that. I definitely hide food. He has no off switch (he is 23 with Asbergers to be fair to him). If I buy a jar of nutella, he will eat 1kg in 2 days. He will vanish into his room with an entire 6 pack of crisps and not leave any for his 5 year old brother. He will also have a dinner consisting of 6 sausages and an entire bag of quorn pieces - so basically the main constituents of 2 entire family meals. It costs a fortune.

7Pip · 10/03/2019 22:24

I think if you're small and female as I am, married to a 6'4 man, you can underestimate the amount of food they can get through.

MissCharleyP · 10/03/2019 22:25

My ex was like this - I’d buy food for my lunches at work out of my own money (we had separate finances); those sandwich thins, meat, cheese, crisp, chocolate, make 1 to go to work with, come home and he’d have eaten three days worth! AND then say I was ‘tight’ for moaning! It wasn’t really the money I was bothered about, more that I couldn’t be arsed traipsing to the shop every couple of days when I’d bought stuff to last a week. I either locked it in my car (he didn’t have a key) or just bought lunch/tea at work. What really used to piss me off was that when he did the shopping for his business, he’d never go and buy things that I did but had no issue eating them within a bloody day when I bought them.

Namechange8471 · 10/03/2019 22:27

Hide your goodies in an empty tampax box

Speaking from experience here...

Singletomingle · 10/03/2019 22:31

If he is not overweight I'm not sure you can call him greedy. It is selfish he demolishes all the snacks but then why is he eating so many snacks? What is his life like exercise, work and activities? Personally I exercise 3/4 times a week, I have a very active job and I tend to go out for a long hike once a week. I easily eat 5000 calories a day yet have dropped 2 stone this year.

MrsEricBana · 10/03/2019 22:32

I thought everyone had a secret stash! I do, not so I can get "my share" but, like the OP, so if I do fancy something it's not all gone. It's teens that are like locusts here, not so much dh.

Hersheys · 10/03/2019 22:34

Oh you are not alone!

TriciaH87 · 10/03/2019 22:43

My other half drives me crazy with cereal. I buy it for our eldest to eat before school and would not mind him eating it if he wasn't such a cf. Not only does he have a mountain full he goes back for a second bowl. Uses the last of the milk doing so and as a result i end up rushing about to sort our son something else in a hurry making us run late.

Squigglesworth · 10/03/2019 22:49

Definitely find yourself one or two (or more) good hiding places and use them. There's no shame in squirreling away treats for yourself.

Either that or label them. Like the old-fashioned "his" and "hers" towels, but for snacks. The problem with that is he might "not notice" or will gobble his own and then come for yours. Honestly, I'd just hide things. It's easier that way.