Being broody?

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Dp just said his reason for having a low sex drive is because I’m broody and he thinks I’m going to babytrap him. Is he for real? I’m so hurt that he thinks of me this way. I have the pill, it gives me so many issues and I stay on it because he’s not ready for kids and I get this? I’m pissed off and offended.

Where did it even come from? ,That's not on to throw that at you. How many children have you got? And even if you were broody, you should be able to go to him and talk about it. He can't withhold intimacy as to avoid pregnancy. That's cruel!

How about he puts a condom on then? Bloody twat (him, not you).

That's harsh!
Is he using it as an excuse for just a generally low sex drive?

Surely if a man really wanted it but was concerned about pregnancy he would use a condom and crack on?

@samind no kids yet. Just came out of general conversation about the future really

@jaseyraex lol I say the same but apparently its “not good for him”

@Bigonesmallone3 I have no idea. And I know, exactly!

Wow! Are condoms not invented to prevent such things?
That aside he has basically just told you he doesn't trust you. I think that would be it for me.

Assuming you'ré not always forgetting your pill or have had a few accidents or anything. ..

So he thinks you'll lie and manipulate and scheme just to get what you want, that you will ignore his views on a subject and be selfish enough to put your wants before his and before a hypothetical child by bringing it into a world where it was unwanted by one parent? He's got a low opinion of you hasn't he? How did you respond?

If he really thinks that then he doesn't trust you at all and thinks you're capable of lying to him.

I think it sounds more like an excuse though as there are plenty of ways to avoid getting someone pregnant rather than just not having sex

How long have you been with him?

I think I'd be leaving him.

I would leave someone who treated me this way. He's saying, I don't trust you, but you have to keep suffering with birth control because my cock's pleasure is more important that you, and if your birth control fails I'm blaming you and either trying to bully you into an abortion or walk away, or both.

I wouldn't want to have kids with someone like that at all.

Time for you to separate.

He refuses to wear condoms even though the pill makes you ill. So showing he cares more about his own pleasure than your health.

Your sex drives aren't compatible and he's blaming you when in reality it's just his nature.

He's also saying he doesn't trust you.

He's showing you who he is.

So OP tell everyone what you actually get out if this relationship?

Some people have reaction to latex, it’s quite common and condoms are no longer recommended as safe contraception.
Stick to non Piv as an interim measure.

Well apart from this he’s great. He’s like my best friend, same sense of humour literally the male version of me, etc. But I just found this comment really quite insulting? And it’s making me really nervous as in the past with an ex (he knows this btw) I had a slip up on a similar pill. It ended in miscarriage anyway but I’ve made him aware that I’m proof the pill isn’t 100% reliable and when he still refuses to use condoms it makes me panic so much thinking “what if it happens again?” Because I feel like he’d say I did it on purpose

@NameChangeNugget you can get non-latex condoms.

And yes condoms are recommended as safe contraception.

Are you an anti-vaxxer?

OP if a guy doesn't care about your sexual health he doesn't care about you. I've seen other women including 2 of my sisters abused in this way.

Wow. He's managed an ultra bastard way of blaming HIS low sex drive on you. He's found something quite devastating from your past that you feel bad about and is twisting it to put the blame on you. What a prince! Has he started in the 'you've put on weight' one yet? Cos I'm betting that's in his arsenal of why it's your fault he has a lower sex drive.

Do you want to be with a man who chooses to make you 100% responsible for contraception, happy to let you be ill on that contraceptive, AND then says he doesn't trust you to take it AND says it's also your responsibly that his sex drive has decreased?

He's BU for not wearing condoms and blaming you for his shit sex drive. His cock problems are just that his problem.

LTB

You want different things, he doesn't trust you not to trick him, and you don't trust him not to bully you into an abortion. Plus you're not having sex.

I often read the following things on MN:

'No contraceptive is 100% reliable'
'All men should know no contraceptive is 100% reliable, not even belt and braces'
'If he didn't want children, he should have kept his dick in his pants'

Yes, the OP's DP is being a shit regarding condoms and 'oops-ing'. Let's say he decided to use them after all and OP either stays on or comes off the pill. We still have the issue that 'no contraceptive is 100% reliable, not even belt and braces'. DP does not want children. DP knows OP is broody and knows she wouldn't abort should conception occur. Therefore, he keeps his dick in his pants.

Regardless of how much of an arsehole he is being, the fact remains that he doesn't want sex because he doesn't want children. But he IS being an arsehole. For that, I'd get rid.