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Should I have made him say please?

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Cantthinkofanythingrightnow · 10/03/2019 11:10

My DS age 6 has high functioning autism. On a good day he seems like a 'normal' kid, and on a bad day he cries all day and wont talk and just clings to me. Today has been bad.

I've taken him to rock climbing class with younger DS. In the drink queue at break, another kid went in front because she's leaving early, which is fine, but my DS thinks she's pushed in the queue. He is very black and white about rules. So essentially this sets him off.

We get to the (20 year old climber) guy and I ask if he can have a drink please. DS is under my scarf. The guy says only if he says please. I explain he's autistic and cant talk right now but that I'm saying please, and my other DS is saying please. The guy says no he's able to ask he asked the other week. I said that's not how autism works, he sulked and by now there's a queue and people have overheard. Eventually gave me the drink.

Was IBU? Should I make a complaint? If it was my 'normal' DS or DD I would have course made them ask but trying to make an autistic kid do anything is impossible. I'm so annoyed at the guy and myself and autism and just trying not to be annoyed at DS Sad

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 10/03/2019 11:14

Climber guy is a twat. Yes, make a complaint.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 10/03/2019 11:16

To be clear, climber guy was a twat regardless of your son's autism. You the adult were requesting a drink for a small child - it's you who the guy was dealing with.

PotteringAlong · 10/03/2019 11:16

I agree. Climber guy was a knobber. Complain.

dontlikebeards · 10/03/2019 11:16

YNBU , I have a 5 year who isn't autistic but very shy and I would never push her to speak in a situation where she didn't want to so that stands even more in your situation.

ShawshanksRedemption · 10/03/2019 11:16

They need training on customer service (because they were rude to you as you has said please) and also inclusion training.

So yes, make a complaint.

Waveysnail · 10/03/2019 11:21

I would be giving them some asd literacy and how it works and that futher training is needed

2rachtint · 10/03/2019 11:24

This is rude regardless - you were asking and said please (and anyway, - it's not his job to enforce manners when parents are present). I'd definitely let the centre management know.

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