Doctors Note

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Named changed because I suspect a colleague knows my normal name.

I'm currently signed off with work related stress and depression. I won't go into the reasons now.

My query is, I know my boss has told at least four members of our team the reason I'm off. I imagine he's told more but I've only heard from these four. Can he do this? Surely this information should be kept private unless I wish to share it?

I honestly feel like he's made it harder to go back now as my colleagues will ask what caused all this in the first place.

What do I do?!

I didn't articulate that very well. I just don't want to use the term too loosely, when I know people are going through a lot worse than I am.

No questionnaire. I just ended up pouring my heart out about all the things my boss has been doing in the last year and the doctor said he was signing me off so I could have a break from it all while I decided what to do next. It's been so difficult.

Di you think you may have a case for harassment? What kind of things are we talking about ? Do you feel singled out / bullied ? Apart from blabbing to all of your co - workers, are you able to give us a few examples ? He sounds horrendous.

Can you raise a grievance citing this as an example of his behaviour towards you.

If you want to go back you could use this as a way to change things. Make it clear to your director that due to the horrifying breach of your personal data and privacy you no longer can work with this person and insist they do something about it, use the grievance process if you have to. TBH if I had an employee signed off with work related depression, I would not be sitting around waiting for them to get better, I would want to be making sure that whatever caused it was resolved. I would hope most decent managers would do the same.

It's hard to explain without being too outing, and I've posted under a different name about it but I can't remember how much detail I gave. Oh fuck it.

He made a mistake with regards to shift cover. I changed my hours, and had my contract amended to state my new hours. I was the first person to do this. He then let more people in the team change their shifts so they also didn't work when I didn't. Their contracts were also amended. This caused massive issues as the team was always short staffed. If someone wanted leave, or was sick, or in a meeting, the team was screwed.

He then tried to single me out to change my hours back. He did not approach anyone else about this. I refused. He then tried to force me to by changing my role and saying my hours no longer fit the business need. I still refused and nothing more was said, though he told a colleague he was no longer pursuing it.

He then stripped me of all responsibilities so I was literally sat at my desk, waiting for the phone to ring, with nothing else to do. I'm the joint most qualified person in our team (not a brag, it's the truth, only two of us have the qualification), I used to do this when I first started 8 years ago. It was demoralising and humiliating. He would also ignore me for days on end. He'd make a point of striking up conversation with everyone but me.

I tried to talk to him last summer. He said "I'm far too busy and I've got far more important things to do than listen to you". This man boasts about his "open door policy". This man claims to always have time for us. I've sat there for over a year now, slowly having my confidence and self-esteem chipped away at. And I just can't fucking do it anymore!

I feel like he has purposely made it unbearable so I leave.

You should put all that in a grievance. That having agreed to change your hours, others followed suit but he singled you out to change. Keep it factual with dates as far as you can recall.

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I think @LIZS is right and you've now got your doctors note so you can say he's exacerbated this xx

That sounds truly awful and surely you have a case for Constructive Dismissal. Your colleagues at least sound supportive

I'm glad it's not just me being overly sensitive. I keep trying to tell myself thar it's just a job but I'm there for 10 hours a day!

If there are any HR professionals that could advise, I would really appreciate it. If I email my director, what's to stop him just deleting it?

He can't just delete it, plus you've got proof you sent it, that's the main thing. You need to try set up a meeting (if you feel up to it). Explain everything chronologically, facts and dates as app said xx

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