DH seems to be super depressed wwyd?

[Waterbottle1999]

Dh came home after a night out with friends drunk. He kept asking me why I want to be with him and when I asked him about it he eventually told me he feels like he's disgusting, deserves to be alone and a burden.

I was shocked and tried to console him but nothing I could say made him feel better. Now I'm concerned especially because he told me a while ago, before we got together that he tried to take his own life, but failed.

I said that he should call up his GP on Tuesday and if he ever feels like he's in a dark place to talk to me

Now that he's sober, what should I do?? Wwyd??

How's he been for the weeks before the light out?

I think I'd say to him tomorrow "we need to talk". And then listen. Hug. Tell him you're going to help him feel better about himself. Tell him you love him.

Well, he's always kind of been a glass half empty kind of guy, but he laughs, we have plans for the future. He is very self conscious though.

After our talk last night we fell asleep, I woke up and he had gone to the couch at some point in the night :(

Come to think of it, whenever he drinks (which isn't often) he usually spills the beans on everything and says something odd, last time he said he felt different to everyone. I just put it down to drunk nonsense

My husband gets like this too. Think it comes down to issues from childhood in this case - his mum was emotionally abusive and made him feel bad about himself, which he's carried into adulthood although usually very well masked. Alcohol can let the mask slip - wonder if this might be similar case for your husband?

Talking therapy can help a lot, if he values himself highly to make the effort to go. If he has very low self esteem, it might be hard for him to think he's worth it, or that he should bother taking up someone's time. He might also be pessimistic that anything will ever help him feel differently, if these are feelings he's carried for a long time. I'd really recommend it though.

Good luck, and make sure to get some support for yourself if you're helping him though a period of depression, because that will be tough on you as well and you need to keep yourself well!

As far as I know he had a happy childhood at home, he loves his family and I get along with them really well. He was viciously bullied in school about his weight, I daresay that's carried over.

I suggested therapy while he was drunk and he said it's a good idea. I hope if I bring it up again he doesn't fob it off. Quite often he hasn't seemed "Quite right". I just thought he was moody or something. I feel awful now

Don't feel awful!! Sounds like you're doing your very best to help him and that is HUGE!