It's a long story but need to see what others would do in my situation.
So in November a woman started appearing at a neighbour's house, when I got out the car to walk to my house she would pop out of her house and make small time. Never met this woman before then and the man she is now living with has been there for over a year. She's 45.
Anyway the end of November we were at home on a Sunday afternoon and she knocked on the door, asked to see me and if I would look after her indoor cat in my house while she goes away for Xmas. I'm not a fan of animals in the house, have a 5 year old with autism and also expecting another baby but I felt put on the spot and couldn't say no so I said yes.
So the next few weeks before Xmas she had to bring the cat up to our house at the weekend to see if she liked it there, the cat even had sleepovers! When she came up to the house with the cat she would say things to my child like 'look at me when I'm talking to you' and 'sit still, stop jumping'. Tbh I don't think anyone should say this to a child with autism, esp in their own house.
Anyway I kept quiet and she went away for Xmas on the 23rd December, came back on the 11th January! Cat is gone back, left litter tray etc outside for her to collect them and she did.
But she still wants to call up and tell me about her holiday. I don't want to know about it and I don't want her in my house! I out of the house between 7 to 7 Monday to Friday and she would rush out of the house when she saw my car pull up saying she would call up one day and tell me about her holiday. Then one evening I was getting out the car, she came out and asked to call up that evening, I told her evenings don't suit, the weekend would be better. So Friday evening again she comes out and says when would be best over the weekend. I said Sunday morning would suit us and she agreed. Sunday morning came, I had dh there for moral support and she didn't turn up. 7.30 that evening she texted and asked if it was ok to call up then. I replied that I was getting ds ready for bed and then going to bed myself shortly after as dh is up at 4 in the morning and I'm up at 6. She already knows this though so dont know why she thinks It was a suitable time to call. For the next week I managed to avoid her and I thought she got the message and stopped bothering me. But this afternoon I was in bed because I haven't been sleeping well (now 6 months pregnant). I woke up to see a message from her saying 'I just left a voice mail for you while I was knocking at your door' and a second message 2 minutes after saying 'I knew you were home cos I saw the bathroom light on'. I haven't replied but I really think I am going to have to say something, wwyd in this situation? I hate confrontation but can't have her coming up to the house anymore.