To ask my doctor friend to do this?

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DH's parents have set up a power of attorney document but it can only be witnessed by either a lawyer or a doctor. DH's parents have asked me to ask my good friend who is a doctor to witness their signatures.

Doesn't sound like a big deal...except that DH'S parents have already signed the document and want me to ask friend to sign it as a "witness" without him actually witnessing them signing it or even seeing them.

I've told DH that I am not even going to ask him as I think this request is out of order, that my friend wouldn't (and shouldn't) do it and that it puts my friend in an uncomfortable situation by even suggesting it.

DH thinks I am being unreasonable not to even ask him as he can always say no.

To head off any questions - DH's parents are absolutely of sound mind. Friend has met DH's parents a few times but not for a year. I would be fine asking friend to actually witness them signing the document.

So AIBU?

No I would feel exactly the same.

Your husband and his parents are being completely unreasonable. For fuck's sake.

I wouldn't "witness" it and I don't think any professional would and these don't have to be witnessed by a doctor or lawyer that is BS. Anyone can witness so something is not correct in this story.

Where we live the rules are clear - only a lawyer or practising doctor can sign the witness statement.

It would be fraudulent of the doctor to sign they had seen it signed when they hadn't. The sort of probity issue that, if it went south, could cost them their career.

YANBU. However, I would ask but word it along the lines of "They've already signed it and think you can just take the document and sign the witness bit. Obviously, I realise you can't do that, but would you be prepared to come over sometime and actually witness it?"

And, assuming she says "yes", I'd then tell PiL, "Sorry - it's not legal for Dr to witness after the fact but she's happy to come over and do it properly."

If they're that good a friend then you'd ask they'd do

If you're overstating your relationship then no I wouldn't ask