To be rather cross

[Hitchcockginger]

I'm not on Facebook myself, but looking at a friend's, I saw that the woman who had an affair with my husband has posted a lovely message, inspired by International Women's Day, about female solidarity, support and sisterhood. I would love to message her thanking her for her support and solidarity which left my marriage hanging by a thread and my self-esteem in tatters. I won't, because I have just enough self-respect left, but sorely tempted.

You are right not to respond
Rant on her instead, I'm sorry they put you through this

Ouch. No. Don't rise to it. Have a good rant on here instead.

Any chance at all she didn't know your DH was married?

Doesn't help, but I suppose if she knew full well he had a wife then it does make her a hypocrite. If not...well, then your DH is the only one to blame.

woman who had an affair with my husband or 'the woman my husband had an affair with'

Sounds like you are solely blaming her...

She definitely knew he was married (so is she). And I can assure you that I reserve the majority of my ire for my husband.

“Except when you’re fucking their husband, eh Susan?”

Write that. Fuck it.

YANBU to want to but you're very wise to rant on here instead.

Ohhhhh those people who are complete assholes with no ethics related to anything whatsoever but their facebook/instagram is pristine and they pretend to be the best people ever. Gotta love em

I wouldn't comment tho. She's not worth your time. Nor is your DH

“Except when you’re fucking their husband, eh Susan?”

You could hardly be held responsible if your friend wrote that OP. After all, you're not even on Facebook...

pictish wins it for me!

YANBU at all OP, solidarity is actions, not shite on social media. Also, I think he's a dick for cheating.

She definitely knew he was married (so is she).

Errg, in that case, I'll grab my pitchfork and be with you shortly.

mmmm...worth trying to make a new account...fb might let you..and her post is public? then let rip.... write that gem from pictish would be funny for 5 mins then if you are like me you'll then feel worse.

“Except when you’re fucking their husband, eh Susan?"

Only possible riposte.

I would love to respond like that. But although it would be lovely for the first 5 minutes, I would then feel terrible.

I think we can all agree that @Pictish always gives the best & funniest advice for the brave of heart!!

I don't think I'd post her suggestion but I'd be VERY tempted and enjoy the mwah-ha-hah thought that I could!

'Susan' doesn't know the meaning of women -solidarity and will get her come-uppance one day!

Why would you feel awful afterwards OP?

@Pictish nailed it

OP, you shouldn't feel awful at all .

Can you not do pictish's idea but a little cleaner? 'Does that include sleeping with other womens husbands?'