To have time off work as nan is I’ll

[Evilorange]

I don’t think they are pleased

It’s one of these massive range of answers questions.

Is nan dying? Or does she have the sniffles?
Is nan usually fairly able bodied therefore still reasonably managing like another adult would?
Are you nans only living relative?
Is nan in hospital?
And a million other questions.

Obviously if nan is at deaths door, home alone as a request to die at home which will literally be any day now and you don’t have anyone else who could “take shifts” to be with her that’s totally different from Nan has a stomach bug and feels faint so she’s fuming she can’t do book club or Nans broken her leg and is either in hospital or at home but can’t nip out for milk..

Could also depend on your own job role. Ie you expect to be able to leave instantly without notice and work in an emergency response setting.. no ones going to be chuffed if a paramedic walks out because nans needing milk. But in some office situations you’d possibly be able to use flexi time to nip to Tesco via nans and back.

It would probably have to be taken as holiday/TOIL where I work unless (and I hope this isn't the case for you, OP) your grandparent was on their death bed in which case it could be compassionate leave.

You can do what you want with your Annual Leave - may of course impact on colleagues if only so many can be off at once.

If you are expecting anything else, as everyone else says, you need to give us the full information before any of us could answer that.

My mum and her sister had caring responsibilities for my nan who had dementia and a heart condition meaning she was was easily lost and couldn't walk far. My nan had a long awaited appointment at the dementia clinic which happened to occur while my auntie was away on holiday. There was no way my mum could have taken her alone as parking is notoriously bad at the clinic so mum would have needed to park a long way from the building and nan couldn't have walked the distance. She couldn't just drop nan off at the door while she parked because nan would have wandered off. I asked for the afternoon off to accompany my mum and got it for those specific circumstances. So what I'm saying is, it really depends on the circumstances.

P. S. I work in a school so we don't get annual leave, otherwise I would have just taken it from that.

So are you caring for her whilst she's ill? Travelling 200 miles to sit next to her in hospital? Or visiting for half an hour then checking in to Starbucks on FB

Unpaid leave, holiday leave or compassionate LEAVE or do you expect them to just pay you as normal?

A few days, a few weeks, months?

Drop and run OP.

You don’t normally get compassionate leave for a grandparent. I had to take holidays for my grandparents funerals (indifferent jobs). I did take the afternoon off when my gran had a major stroke but I wasn’t fit to keep working as it was a shock.

I guess it depends how close you are and how ill she is. If she's getting on a bit this could be the start of many bouts of illness so you might need to consider long term

One up one down where I work

So mother/ father or children -- time off allowed

Not grandparents or grandchildren

Take annual
Leave

YABU. You've given zero details and disappeared so not sure what you expect people to say except at my old company you would not have been given compassionate leave for a grandparent and you would be expected to take annual leave, if that fitted in ok with your Department's schedule.

Wow I’m so glad I don’t work where a lot of you do! Last June my grandmother fell suddenly ill (heart attack) and was hospitalised. I didn’t know if she’d pull through or not. I immediately left work and took that afternoon and the following day as compassionate/special leave (paid). She survived but stayed in hospital. I went back to work as usual using weekends to visit etc. Then a few months later I had a call at work on the weds to say come and say your goodbyes. I immediately left work (as did my DH) and went there. She died that day. I took that (and the two days after that, plus two days for the funeral) all as compassionate/special (paid) leave. There were no debates, my manager was great. Admittedly aside from me and DH she had no other family. But still. I’m very grateful I didn’t have to worry about how to coverage my bills whilst I needed to be at her side. And if I’d not left work on that list day to say goodbye, I would never have forgiven myself. (I would’ve been useless in work that day anyway!)

Thing is Dinosaur - we have no idea if the OP is posting about a comparable situation. That's why people are asking questions.

Yes @backforgood I completely agree re OP (who I don’t think is coming back) but there have been a few people saying they wouldn’t get compassionate leave for grandparents or there is a one up/one down policy. Amazes me. My situation was unusual (I lived with my DGM as a child, have no siblings/cousins etc) but for general policies I thought grandparents would be included as a very close relative...

When my grandad died I had 2 1/2 days off 1 1/2 days as I stayed with him at hospital and 1 day for the funeral... I found that reasonable and appreciated it.

My grandad has 4 kids and many grandchildren though so didn’t feel
Like I was the only one to help him ... had been ill for a long time cancer twice ... brain tumour / heart problems and finally pneumonia ... the last one finished him
Off ... but he nearly died many times.

How does that compare with your situation OP ?

OP has done a runner......

Annual leave, flexi or unpaid leave. No way would it be compassionate, paid leave.

@Evilorange what was the point of this post??

I am a civil servant, we wouldn't be granted compassionate leave for a grandparent no, only a parent or child. A friends MIL died, she had been close to her for 25 years. She wasn't given any allowances so had to take unpaid leave for the funeral.

@PandaSky

A very good question.

I hate threads like these.

Yabu for expecting opinions and giving no information - clear you just want us to go no hun of course not!

Family comes first.

A job is just a job.

@katykins - I’m also a civil servant, so depends on department, role, grade etc.

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Your nan or DCs nan? Do you need time off to care for your children because your DM can't? I don't understand