To plate it in the kitchen rather than let people serve themselves?

[IggyPoppers]

If you're having a family meal do you plate it straight from the whatever it was cooked in onto plates and then carry those plates through or do you decant the food into a serving bowl and carry that through? AIBU to not want even more dishes and to just plate it from the hob?

So when letting others help themselves, what if someone decides they want 4 Yorkshire puddings leave 2 people with none for example?

My pans are bloody lovely, I bought new ones and they are a mix on anodised whatsits and stainless steel. I want people to admire their beauty

disorganised yes, I understand that. That is not what I read that post to mean - I don't want to be fishing my spuds and carrots out of the saucepan they've been cooked in. That's not the same as a casserole dish.

in a private home, it doesn't matter. Some people are more formal than others, it doesn't change the taste of the food

This. Our dining room and kitchen are open plan, so plates and cutlery are put on the table, someone brings over the pot/s and pan/s of food and everyone helps themselves. Easy.

what if someone decides they want 4 Yorkshire puddings leave 2 people with none for example?

then that someone is never re-invited in my house
and I go and defrost a couple more or people just do without.

So when letting others help themselves, what if someone decides they want 4 Yorkshire puddings leave 2 people with none for example?

Nobody in my family is enough of a dick to take 4 yorkshire puddings leaving other people with none.

What kind of arsehole would take more than their share?!

Having said I serve it on plates, I used to let the children serve themselves when younger because I'd heard it helped with fussy eaters, and it did.

We serve up the pans, trays or slow cooker pot. It keeps the food hot, plus leftovers can be saved from the pan whereas you wouldn't take them off plates. Salad comes out (and goes back if it isn't finished) in tupperware pots. Limited items like a roll each might go straight onto plates to save space. When there are guests we use more serving dishes for salad (but don't usually fuss for family nor close friends). The baby has an extra "cooling down" plate for stuff he might eat next so I know how much of which things he's eaten (roughly), and sometimes he might have something different in his options if we're having something spicy or salty.

For balance, if we have salad and I let my teenage son serve himself then he'd only have half a leaf.

I teach my kids that's it's very rude not to eat a bit of everything, unless it makes you physically sick but that's quite rare, so they have to take a little bit of every dish. They also have to finish what's in their plates.

It doesn't work when people plate up, as you can't control your portions and I really don't like that. It makes very uncomfortable meals when someone serves you a gigantic portion that put you off your food.

So when letting others help themselves, what if someone decides they want 4 Yorkshire puddings leave 2 people with none for example?

That wouldn't happen in my house, it's obvious that you point out how many people there are how many Yorkshire puddings there are, hardly rocket science

Also steamed or boiled veg might go in a serving bowl or be plated, depends on how much is going out.

So when letting others help themselves, what if someone decides they want 4 Yorkshire puddings leave 2 people with none for example?

They would be stabbed Jennifer .
Stabbed I tell you!

there should be enough yorkshire puddings for people to have seconds anyway!

Depends on the food, and the people

Sometimes I plate. Sometimes I get everyone to plate in the kitchen. Other times I put the actual roasting pan or whatever on the table. Other times I put into serving bowls.

Well yes, it's obvious how much each there is here too, half, so it just makes sense to plate it.

If you serve in bowls, DC very quickly learn to be reasonable and also to check that everyone's had something before they take the last, and how to defer to guests, and all sorts of general good manners.

Regarding yorkshire puddings, this is why my nephew may only take his portion last when everyone else has been given fair warning to take what they want.

(Same with dad and the pigs in blankets portions.)

Assuming by family meal that the OP means just her family that she lives with- not guests!

I usually plate up for most meals which are just me, DH and DD- the only time I don't plate up is if we have a Sunday roast, or a salad.

If we have guests then I would put vegetables and potatoes in serving bowls but I'd till plate up some things like pasta dishes or the meat part of a meal if it was something like chicken breast in a sauce and leave the accompaniments for guests to serve themselves.

I think I know my DH and DD well enough to know how much and what they like and dislike!

Just 'house family' I stick it straight on the plates.
Was amazed to read on here last year someone found this odd.

I mean, if I were having guests I would faff about warming serving dishes etc, but why would you do that (time warming, then all the extra washing up) for just your own dc and dh ?

I try to put dishes on the table so people can help themselves. That's because all the 'fussy eater' advice is to do that. But I have to stop myself from serving the kids the stuff from the bowls. When my mum comes I have to stop her doing it too. I'm quite fat and so is she, and I often wonder if struggling to let people serve themselves is connected to the fatness. I'm not suggesting this about anyone else by the way, just an idle wonder.

If it's casual friends and family I invite them into the kitchen to help themselves and they can take their own plates through. Not everyone wants my idea of portion sizes.
If it's a dinner party I put everything on the table and people can help themselves.
I never plate up for other people.

but why would you do that (time warming, then all the extra washing up) for just your own dc and dh ?

to be honest, I never understand why people are ready to make extra efforts for guests but not for your own family.

Either you are comfortable plating in the kitchen or serving from the pan, then why wouldn't you do it all the time, or you prefer not to, then your family benefits too.

It's the same with cleaning, tidying up. I never understood the need to completely change behaviour because you have guests (obviously wouldn't be running around the house in my underwear looking for my phone if we have non family members here)

Everyday meals plated,I cook as much as we need not more.
Guests or big gatherings,family I don't see everyday then serving dishes.
I do ask people how much they want if plating and if they want more they can have it from the kitchen.