Wondered what you would do ?
I have a sibling who I don’t have a lot to do with . I have other siblings with whom I do .
It started when we were in our late teens .
She let me down on a number of occasions , tended to be things to do with boys and sibling secrets let out to parents .
Sometimes I’d tell her things in confidence , later to find that she was blackmailing me with it , nothing big ( in the adult world ) but a big deal at the time of being in late teens .
As you can imagine trust broke .
She also manipulated parents particularly dad , so that she had better house ruleS , eg no house chores for her but not for me etc etc ...
Now we are adults .
I don’t trust her and don’t want anything to do with her .
On my wedding day she tubings every family photo , by turning her face and being the only one not looking at the camera .
As an adult she disinvited every member of our family ( including me and my parents and my other siblings ) to her civil wedding ceremony .
After she had a baby she wanted a lot to do with me , wanting to me a god parent ( I refused ) . I visited and have the baby an amazing present etc but I have very much kept my distance .
She wanted to start socialising and be a part of my life again, I have young children of my own , but I don’t have much to do with her or her child ( aside from sending the odd gift for the child )
Am I being unreasonable to not want anything to do with her .
Am I doing the Right thing for my children and their cousin ?