My friend who lives several hours away whim I haven't seen in some years is currently in my city for an operation, without going into specifics she's not sick or in bad health but the operation is a big one.
The op is something she's been waiting to have for a long time, is a big turning point in her life and is a massive deal for her.
I'm 33 weeks pregnant but struggling massively with SPD. The dreaded 'lightening crotch' has started this week and it takes me forever to get anywhere, wincing as I go. My daily 1/2 mile walk to the local shops has become increasingly difficult and I'm constantly exhausted and in pain. I had a thread on here last week moaning about how rubbish I feel and could cry most days as it hurts so much. I feel almost housebound now as my DP has had to start doing the shopping after work because I can't manage the pram / shopping / walking.
I don't drive so getting to the hospital she's at would mean navigating several modes of public transport across the (big) city, with a 14 month old in a pram (and not all the stations along the way are pram friendly either and I don't have anybody to accompany me and help me lift the pram up and down the escalators so I don't even know how I'd manage that).
Prior to her being admitted for the OP I said I'd be going to visit her but I really don't think I'm up to it and feel tremendously guilty about the prospect of telling her this.
WIBU to not go and explain to her why, or will I look like selfish and unsupportive?
Do I just suck it up and push myelf to go? WWYD?
She's not on her own and has her partner here with her, but it's the fact I had told her I'd be going.