DD birthday AIBU to not invite class mates

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My dd birthday is later this month, she has been bullied by the girls in her class. My dd is sweet kind and gentle, a real people pleaser and hates confrontation, arguments and violence (hitting, kicking etc).

School are on top of the bullying as they love seeing me coming down the yard lol..

anyway they picked on her the day before another girls birthday, so she didn't go because her anxiety was through the roof and she was physically sick because of this. I feel the 2 that did it, done it on purpose, so she wouldn't attend as it was an all-day party.

Now my DD wants to invite all the girls in her class to her pamper day party. AIBU to only invite her cousin's and 2 very good friends who attend different schools?

Oh sorry I assumed she was about 16!

In that case I’d have to talk her out of that idea, I wouldn’t trust myself not to go absolutely mad at the bullies to be honest and there’s no way I’d pay for them to have another opportunity to bully DD.

DD 9 had light bullying at her last school (she has mild aspergers so didn't notice) her friends left and the girls left were in a cliché. We left that school for a few reasons but the thing that made me check out was dropping her off one morning and noticed how her siblings left to go play with their friends and she just stood next to me not one child spoke to her in the 15 minutes we waited for the doors to open. I wished I'd taken her home day.

Her new school is lovely, she has loads of friends, is back to her normal happy-go-lucky self, her siblings are happy (they didn't want to move schools), I'm amazed at the quality of the teaching staff and the new school has a community feel.

I do 5 hours a week of volunteer work with children, happy children get so much more out of education and life than unhappy ones. A new school will allow her to be the new kid and she'll make new friends so quickly.