to think less of someone who is willing for DS to miss nursery so they get cheaper holidays?

[oasis]

When I said that our kids starting nursery this coming September means we have to go on holiday during the school holidays from now on, she replied that her DS will have to have a poor record for attendance for the first year as it was not that important and she was going to have her holidays when she liked!

YABU!

What exactly do you think her ds will miss when he is on his holidays? Calculus and Proust? I don't think so, finger painting and singalong more like.

Lighten up.

Well the child could be at a disadvantage, if that is the week they are doing quantum physics.

10 days here in Surrey, rarely refused but you must explain in writing.

LaDiDaDi

Great minds...

10 days for Primary school surely - not Pre School/Nursery?

Yes MCD the 10 days are in primary in Surrey.

sorry oasis am with your friend, it's only a nursery year and possibly the last time you will be able to do this. Make the most of it! We've just done it.

Some children don't go to nursery at all, or only for 1 or 2 sessions a week. Of course it doesn't matter - nursery is not compulsory.

poor oasis

NUrsery is not compulsary - not all children attend a nursery or pre-school.

As attendance isn't compulsary so taking a holiday isn't an issue IMO.

Put the money you save by going during term time in a pot for next year when you have a bigger issue going in term time

Do you think she is getting a slamming Filly? I scanned through and just saw people saying they didn't agree with her

more to life than nursery and school. You are obviously conformist, she is not - you will never agree on such matters. So, SBU - stop being unreasonable!

YABu. The child is what- 3?4? -and I'm an ex-teacher.

Re the 10 days thing - iirc, the rule is that holidays in term time are not to be encouraged but that allowing them is at the Head's discretion, usually after a written supplication by parents. If parents still want to take kids after head has said no, they can, but the time off then counts as unauthorised absence (i.e.truancy). In practice, most Heads will grant it cos it looks better for schools as well as pupils if absences are authorised, rather than unauthorised.

nooo i don't think she is getting a slamming really

just that-NO ONE agrees with her.

kind of an "oh dear, no, you really WERE wrong" but in a nice way

oh hang on thats probably what I should have said

oasis if its any consolation, my PIL would agree with you.

Also, she wasn't just saying "I don't agree with my friend", she was saying "I think less of her"

I don't think that is terribly nice behaviour. In fact, I think less of her for it

i have just, apparently, caused someone to flounce off MN

thusly I am trying to hand out some goodness also, to even stuff out.

Also I am bloody glad that I don't care if ds misses a day of nursery and am trying to be magnanmous.

My PIL get VERY twitchy if there is even a suspicion that ds might be LATE for nursery.

Good well done

They don't actually have to attaend school until they are 5. A friend of mine had a son with a July birthday, and he was shattered going to nursery every day, so she would keep him off now and again to catch up with himself. I haven't taken mine out of school/nursery ususally, but last year we went abroad, and i said i wouldn't take them out of school, but it would have cost another £1000 for a school hol holiday, so i did! I wouldn't worry about nursery though..

have a nice day, frank

(god that is bad. At once?)

(they don't actually have to attend school at all, but that's another thread )

(filly yes, at once. It will be over quickly. Actually I think the bit I hate most is all the ruddy tidying and cleaning. Which I must do now. Farewell)

godspeed to you there

YABU yes.

its nursery, not compulsory. dd2 has missed two days of nursery this year due to dd1 school having inset days, and i took all the girls to the beach/zoo for the day.

Well I told dh we had to go on holiday in the school holidays - because I object to struggling to entertain the children all summer long and then when - at last, blessed relief - they go back to nursery, we go and take them out and go on holiday. Missing out on paid childcare, def not on! Which is clearly entirely selfish and nothing to do with the children's education .

But now dd is going into year 1 in September and I am belatedly realising the advantages of termtime hols. Particularly Center Parcs in November/Feb.

Is a few days off in year 1 a no-no? (I'm asking quietly on a thread about something else in the hope of not starting a furore).

Must get dressed now, will peek back in here later and see if it is safe.

YABU nad why would you think less of someone for doing such a thing?