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I don’t like my wedding ring

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TheFunkyFox · 04/03/2019 18:42

Me and dp are getting married in July. We aren’t having a big wedding, literally just us and a few friends. We just want to be married. Anyway, we bought my ring about a month ago. At the time I loved it and because it was cheap (£100) I thought I was doing the right thing.

Now I’m massively regretting it and can’t really afford a new one!
😩😩

To make matters worse, the way my engagement ring is I can’t get a wedding ring to fit it plus if wojt look right. So I wanted a vintage style ring to make up for it 😩😩

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DontCallMeShitley · 04/03/2019 19:16

I like the wedding ring but not the engagement ring, it looks like a dress ring, sorry OP.

My wedding ring was cheap, I took the first one back because it was too heavy and thick and changed it for a more comfortable one. I only have a small stone in my engagement ring though.

It is the rest of your life you should be thinking of though, not just the rings. You just need to find a compromise, maybe just wear the wedding ring and the engagement ring on the other hand.

Misschipmunk · 04/03/2019 19:18

Warren James have great deals on , I couldn’t find anything to match my engagement ring ended up finding the same ring and matching wedding band for £30 reduced from £150. Worth a look they had some cheaper ones too

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TheFunkyFox · 04/03/2019 19:18

It probably is a dress ring but tbh I don’t care. It was chosen by dp and means the world to me.

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FascinatingCarrot · 04/03/2019 19:19

My wedding ring was only £40 6 years ago and it means the world to me, but its really had a bashing since.
Im planning to have another made and incorporate the melted down gold from it soon. A lot of places do this.

HarrysOwl · 04/03/2019 19:22

I couldn't find a wedding ring I loved even nearly as much as my Edwardian engagement ring.

So I used my engagement ring as my wedding ring, I'm so glad I did!

Your wedding, your rules.

thenightsky · 04/03/2019 19:35

At 5pm the day before our wedding, we suddenly remembered we didn't have a ring!

Rushed to shops, hoping one would still be open. Grabbed first one we saw that we could pay for with cash. £18.

Amibeingnaive · 04/03/2019 19:41

Sigh. Fairly sure OP has thought about the marriage. Note sentimental meaning of the stones etc.

I like them both OP but yes, they may not quite work together.

I like the idea of just using your engagement ring tbh.

Reaa · 04/03/2019 19:49

I wear mine on different fingers, engagement ring on ring finger and wedding band on middle finger (left hand) they compliment each other better that way.

Deadringer · 04/03/2019 19:58

I love your engagement ring, it's so unusual! I think you would need to get a wedding ring with a bend in it to fit around the stone so you might need to get one made. Will the jeweller take it back? If not as pp said you can always wear them on different fingers/hands.

user1473878824 · 04/03/2019 20:03

“Tip: Concentrate more on the MARRIAGE and less on the wedding.”

Such a bitchy comment. Your wedding ring, which you will (hopefully!) wear for the rest of your life, isn’t one day ffs.

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TheFunkyFox · 04/03/2019 20:04

Are concentrating on the marriage, which is why it’s a small wedding with 20 people and my dress cost £65 ;)

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MollysLips · 04/03/2019 20:25

Just use the engagement ring as the wedding ring, if you love it. Your wedding ring is like a slightly-less-nice version of your engagement ring, so I don't see the point of it, really. It's going to stop you wearing the ring you love.

Bayleyf · 04/03/2019 20:32

They're both stunning rings OP. You have amazing taste!

But - I don't love my wedding ring. I wouldn't change it now (married a few years), but I wish I'd changed it before the wedding. If you wear it for the rest of your life, it needs to be right.

ahtellthee · 04/03/2019 20:38

I love Whitby jet (and it's also my happy place).

Missed point of thread

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 04/03/2019 20:41

Engagement ring/'dress' ring; why differentiate? It doesn't matter in the slightest.

Whitby jet is very special. This town is a place with a lot of emotional significance and meaning for DH and me, and I'd love to own something like this. Your rings are both lovely and there's no law to say you have to wear them both on the same hand! They look great as they are; engagement ring on the left, wedding ring on the right. Other people's customs don't need to dictate to you.

BTW, congratulations!

Alsohuman · 04/03/2019 20:42

My wedding ring was the cheapest in the shop, a very thin plain gold band. It’s a complete nonentity, nothing to love or hate which was exactly why I chose it. It hasn’t left my finger in nearly 19 years.

I love yours, OP, and I think it does go with your engagement ring, my only concern is that it may not last but you wouldn’t be the first woman to replace her ring at some point.

dragonsfire · 04/03/2019 20:49

Can you move engagement ring to Right hand after the wedding? I worked in Jewellery 15 years and lots of people did this.

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TheFunkyFox · 04/03/2019 20:57

I think that’s my plan now, going to put my engagement ring away safe and must wear my wedding ring. It
Matches dps wedding ring, I think I was more worried what people would think being not a traditional wedding ring!

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Whatsername7 · 04/03/2019 21:19

I didnt like mine either. I decided to get a cut out ring to fit around my engagement ring. I just didnt like it. I had it melted down and remade using some stones I had from another ring. I love it now. Wear it for a while and if you dont like it then your dh to be might not have to think to hard about what to get you for your first anniversary?

DontCallMeShitley · 07/03/2019 17:38

Engagement ring/'dress' ring; why differentiate? It doesn't matter in the slightest.

It doesn't matter in terms of what kind of ring it is, however it did concern the OP that she wouldn't be able to wear her wedding ring as well because of the size, therefore it did matter in that respect. Dress rings tend to be larger and not worn with another ring, hence not being able to wear both rings at the same time on the same finger.

Reaa · 07/03/2019 22:06

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Mattttttt · 07/03/2019 23:53

Get it remade. Most independent jewellers will be able to melt it down and recast it to a shape you prefer.

Whatsername7 · 08/03/2019 21:19

Rea your rings are gorgeous!

Yesicancancan · 08/03/2019 21:28

Your hands aren’t gross.
Wear either ring in a different finger maybe.

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