Or is Dh?

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He always pushes for an apology from the kids - which often inflames the situation.

Drumstick lolly gate.

Dd2 (6) already had a lolly in the car. Not a drumstick one though.

When I bobbed In to the shop dd3(3) wanted a drumstick lolly so I picked up a small bag of Haribo for dd2.

It was a grave mistake and dd2 started crying (she is going through a stage of crying over everything) because she didn’t get a drumstick lolly too.

I know - petty.

I was dealing with. After going round the houses she was warned she would go to bed if she didn’t stop it. She ended up being told to go to bed. No shouting.

Off she went. (With her iPad)

Dh decides to get involved my shouting to her down. Try’s to explain drumstick gate. She’s not having it. He tells her to come and apologise to me she’s still too wrapped up in drumstick gate. He tells her off and takes her iPad off her cue more crying and banishes her to bed all night.

He should have just left her alone. I’d dealt with it.

I told him to keep his nose out and not get involved.

He is now loitering at the bottom of the stairs.

Your DH is being unreasonable.

It really pisses me off when I’m dealing with an issue like above or something else and my partner starts chipping ins

DH is being unreasonable - you were dealing with it plus his sanctions are disproportionate.

If an apology is appropriate, that should be left until the child has calmed down, when you can explain why they need to apologise.

Your DH but sending her to bed with her ipad isn't that much of a punishment tbf

You are brave posting on here that you buy haribo and lollies for your young DC. You might as well say you have introduced them to crack the way some go on about sweets!

Anyway the lesson here is always to buy them both the same.

And your DH WBU!

He sounds horrible!

DH is being unreasonable. Children of this age cannot always process that level of logic.

Just tell him now he's taken over, it's all down to him. You can go off and watch TV, have a bath, make dinner. Whatever...

DH is being unreasonable - you were dealing with it plus his sanctions are disproportionate

Yeah he has form. Starting in October stating that Father Christmas has been told not to bring presents for bad behaviour for petty shit like not putting shoes on fast enough...

DH is being unreasonable. Children of this age cannot always process that level of logic

I told him this.

She is down stairs now with her haribo.

Anyway the lesson here is always to buy them both the same

Amen!

With kids, especially when they get stuck on things you just have to pick your battles.
But you also need to parent together which often means doing it one at a time so the child doesn't get overloaded.

He should definitely not have gotten involved and you need to come to an agreement on how things get handled. It isn't fair on the children to get bombarded with shouting and telling off from both parents one after the other.