Ignoring so called mate because...

[Alicew00]

Am I right to ignore my.friend who stood me up twice last year and whenever I ask her to come out with me she always has an excuse but she seems to be able.to get out alot with her partner and family. And again last week she stood me up after she said oh I suppose I better turn up am not a very good friend am I.
And she didnt!
She said she was very sorry and she'll come round next time but to remind her.
I know people lives are so busy but I haven't seen in 14 months! I can't help but wonder if she is even bothered with me. No wonder I have no confidence. What do you think?

I have a friend like this. If someone makes you question your value it's maybe time to move on. She doesn't seem to contribute to your life positively anyway.

She doesn't seem to want a friendship with you. Seems like she has distanced herself. She knows you are there for her but she isn't interested. She has moved on.

Did she contact you and say she was sorry she wasn’t coming or did she say she was sorry when you called her out on where she was?

Ok, I thought so too

I said.... hi not sure if your still coming as it's been an hour and a half so I'm just letting you know I'm going to leave now x

Forget about her, she is not your friend.

I'd ignore her, tbh… After 14 months and standing you up several times, she ought to be moving heaven and earth to show she's as sorry as she claims to be, not putting the responsibility onto you to remind her next time!

I was at a kids fun place won't say where. And she didn't turn up. I think I will just not bother to make any plans with her anymore but still be dignified and not petty about it

I can't stand people who expect you to 'remind them' to go out with you!
I had a friend who always said - 'call me' when we saw each other in the street or at school as if she was some superior being - I never did, why should I.

I wouldn't bother with her but if she insists on meeting up arrange something then don't bother going. See how she likes it.

Unfortunately I think you may need to take the hint but.... Are you sure she's okay? If she was a close friend could you maybe say 'Look have been thinking about last week. It's not the first time you've stood me up so obviously it's a bit upsetting. If something's up though with you I'm here for a chat if you need it. For now I'll take it that you are hinting I should leave things if I don't hear."

Being ghosted is horrible. Draw a line under it if you can so you can stop having to second guess: