Bit of a back story. I had my date to be sterilised yesterday. My dp said that he will try and get the week off work and we discussed how many days holiday he has left, he then said ring my mum an ask her to come down instead (which she already offered) which I did. My only worry was is that she isn't a confident driver and she would have to take me and pick me up from the hospital as well as get back in time to pick my kids up from school in my car (I have a 4x4 and she has a mini as well as she doesn't know the area). I don't want my kids late for school. Me and dp disused this before I went on the waiting list and he said that he will be here for the kids. My dp refused to have the one day off on the opp day so he could take me and pick me up whilst on the phone to his mum. My attitude is well f**k you then, I will find a way around this, I don't need you, I have always had to do things by myself in my past relationship so I don't need to change now. His mum told me to stop being a Marta and make him do it. Its a word that's always being said to me, I would describe it more as me being annoyed. I was brought up to think if you want something done, do it yourself. My dp then told me that I was being selfish to want 2 people off work. So was I being a Marta or was I just being normal?