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To think it's not very professional for doctors to swear?

51 replies

HelloKitty76 · 03/03/2019 21:48

I've had 8 appointments with this doctor over 2 years, 2 of them on the phone.

Appointment 1 the doctor said 'crap.' OK, not really a big deal.

By Appointment 3 it was 'bloody.'

Now at Appointment 6 and 8, we're onto 'arsehole' and 'fuck.'

Am I just getting old and grumpy?!

(None of these were used in a physiological context, just in case anyone was wondering!).

OP posts:
Gilead · 03/03/2019 22:29

The exclamation marks are far more offensive than the swearing.

Iused2BanOptimist · 03/03/2019 22:30

Why is your hospital consultant emailing you? A professional letter would be typed by a hospital typist and not have lots of !!!!

MitziK · 03/03/2019 22:30

It would only be the C if it were a Gynae appointment...

PrestonsFlowers · 03/03/2019 22:33

So over a 2 year timescale you've kept note as to precisely which swear word and what particular appointment it was Hmm

Misschipmunk · 03/03/2019 22:34

Everybody is human, if he’s saying it at you then yes you have every right to be angry, however if it’s just in conversation just tell him you don’t like them words being used could he stop it please x

Iused2BanOptimist · 03/03/2019 22:34

My sister's Australian ob gyn referred to "the pink pearly palace of pleasure". No C word. Grin

PrestonsFlowers · 03/03/2019 22:35

MitziK
🤣🤣

JDSTER · 03/03/2019 22:35

I’m also wondering why hospital consultant is emailing you. That is not usual practice at all.

NicoAndTheNiners · 03/03/2019 22:35

My hospital consultant emails me directly with no secretary involvement.

One of them sends me an email in the afternoon after I've seen him in the morning, very formal and polite. No swearing.
He emails all his patients in such a manner.

Other consultant I think doesn't normally email patients but I worked out his email address after a particularly bad appt where I went away with more questions than answers so emailed him the next day. Again they're direct from him but no swearing. Or excessive exclamation marks.

Original poster
HelloKitty76 · 03/03/2019 22:36

Optimist he emails all the time. Not NHS though. And thankfully no, not a gyno, although it still wouldn't surprise me if he came out with the 'C' word.

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Coldandfrosty · 03/03/2019 22:42

My GP says crap. But only after I had known her a year or so

mitzmoo · 03/03/2019 22:45

in a professional capacity no bad language should ever be used.

In reality in work as a PA to a Consultant - potty mouth! I've warned him loads of times that if I ever break a bone and someone has to listen to his transcription he's for the high jump Blush

HennyPennyHorror · 03/03/2019 22:50

Aussies swear a LOT. Since I moved here I've been astounded at it...the radio announcers swear mildly all the time and KIDS swear so much!

I've heard little old ladies in charity shops say "Shit" and arsehole too.

TwitterQueen1 · 03/03/2019 22:51

I think it's past your bedtime ducky.

TheFormidableMrsC · 03/03/2019 22:51

I have the sweariest GP in the world. I love him and that's because he cares, is passionate about his job, never ever dismisses anything, would rather refer than take a chance, actually listens. He is worth his weight in gold and a few apt swears do not detract from the fact he is a bloody excellent GP. I'm a bit sweary though so it doesn't bother me in the slightest. It's just words. I really think there are more things in the world to be offended about.

AlliKaneErikson · 03/03/2019 22:52

It was really reassuring when I was giving birth to dd; doctor started with ‘Oh Christ’...upgraded it to ‘Oh fucking hell’...then lots of buzzers seemed to go off and people came running as I was very poorly and things were going very wrong. it’s fair to say he didn’t do a great job of making me feel at ease!

Abcdefuck · 03/03/2019 22:55

My midwife swears all the time, I love her. It seems to make her more approachable for some reason. I’d love it if my doctor did!

Hazlenutpie · 03/03/2019 22:59

I like the sound of him immensely. There’s nothing worse than an old school, stuffy doctor.

Prequelle · 03/03/2019 23:01

When I've been having chats with patients there's times I've sworn but I know them well and I know if they appreciate that sort of manner or not. I'm professionally distant with some of them and warm and bubbly with others. With others I'm sassy and we have a bit of a rant and a 'ooh shit!'. Whatever makes them trust me and make me feel like the best nurse to look after them.

Notcontent · 03/03/2019 23:08

I am sorry, but I just had a giggling attack thinking of the “physiological” context in which you doctor could have used those words...

“Right, I need to examine your arsehole to see why having a shit is causing you pain”

“Hmm, you are having trouble conceiving... how often do you fuck?”

Hazlenutpie · 03/03/2019 23:10

Notcontent

I really did laugh out loud. 😂😂😂

Notcontent · 03/03/2019 23:22

Glad to be of service! 😂

siestakey · 03/03/2019 23:28

Was it Doctor House by any chance?Grin

It's not professional no, but then some people are just like that! He's obviously still very educated being a doctor and as long as he doesn't miss anything re diagnosis/illness then I'd be fine with it :)

Nanalisa60 · 03/03/2019 23:31

He’s a doctor not a f**king saint!! And let’s face it in the UK you are lucky to get an appointment with a doctor!! So I could not care a tinkers cuse weather he has a potty mouth as long as he’s a good doctor that’s all that matters to me!!

MrsRyanGosling15 · 03/03/2019 23:33

Just last week I was in a house doing a pallatives care call. All the family there around the bedside, the man was probably about an hour or so from death, so you can imagine the mood in the house. I went to was my hands in the ensuite. Walked straight into a dog bowl full of water, shoe soaking water all over the floor. Jesus Christ on a bike, 1st words out of my mouth. It went all quite then 1 laughed then all 12 of them were laughing. I didn't know where to look. Sometimes it just comes out no matter how professional you try and be. I do like the sound of your doctor though, he knows most men are arseholes and diets are shit Grin