AIBU to feel insulted?
I have known my friend since primary school and we have been there through illnesses, split ups, boyfriend troubles. She is one of my closest friends. We both spent our early thirties talking a lot about how much we longed for children. I left my husband because he didn't want to have children and at around this time she fell accidentally pregnant (in a short lived relationship). The christening was a massive affair with six godparents (half his choice). When I arrived at the event, my friend’s sister and one of our mutual friends both assumed I was one of the God-mothers and were embarrassed when I said I was not. My friend didn’t say anything at all - the fact I wasn’t a godparent was never discussed or mentioned.
Forward seven years: I’m pregnant and my friend asks me over lunch if she can be a godmother. She says it’s good to have godparents with money and connections! I am quietly astounded and mumble and say nothing, but I feel outraged inside, and I still feel outraged two years later (I didn’t make her a godparent btw). In this time, her son has had quite a few problems but not one of my friends’ god-parents is still on the scene.
Even though I've pushed this down, it has altered the way I feel about her. I know in many ways she appreciates, values and even admires me, but in one essential respect she didn't feel I am good enough to be her son’s godmother.
Should I say anything now? Can I/Should I get over this? AIBU?