To want my privacy?

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Myself and my DH are heading away this weekend. PIL are coming to stay to mind ds in our house for the first time as ds is in school now. I mentioned this morning I'm going to get everything organized for the visit and as pil will be staying in our bed whilst we're away i'd strip the bed before we leave and throw on the spare sheets ect. DH said to me make sure anything you don't want mil to see is put away. I was like yeah I've tidied everything away into my bedside table already and he then said no she'll be going through them too she's nosey. I'm now feeling really anxious about going away now. I've nothing to hide but I don't want anyone going through my stuff. The problem is DH doesn't think it's a big deal and that the problem is mine. Short of telling DH to go on his own and I'll stay behind what can I do? AIBU to want my privacy?

Well of course not. Nobody wants anyone rooting through their things. Why does DH think she will do? I would have thought you’d have picked up that she was nosy before now?

Just move everything personal out of the way and go and enjoy yourself.

What on Earth can you have hidden in the bedside table that would be awful if someone saw? I mean hide your vibrator by all means but I’m not really seeing the issue with anything else.

These people are being trusted to take care of your child so does it really matter if they have a little nosey

Seriously stop being daft and go and enjoy yourself

Stick emigrating to Australia information pack in your bedside cabinet and a copy of th Karma Sutra in your knicker drawer or a keep out you nosey bat notice in every drawer. She can't call you on it without admitting to being aforementioned bat.

I would definitely be putting outrageous stuff in there on purpose 😂

Pop away anything that you don't want her to see (maybe a lockable overnight case and shove it away?).

Then put notes inside your drawers like..
"NOSEY PARKER!"
"HELLO SNOOPY!"
"FOUND ANYTHING INTERESTING YET?"

I understand your concerns. Your bedroom would normally be your little private space. There are all sorts of things in my bedroom drawer that I wouldn't particularly like anybody to see, whether they were related to me or not. Bills, accounts, payslips, little notes from my dh, a recent speeding fine!
When we had relatives staying I just tipped my top drawer into a carrier bag and put it in the loft.

Glitter inside all the letters and takebtge fuse out of the hoover. She’ll have to admit she was looking at your correspondence to explain the mess.

Put a piece of sellotape over the drawer so she can't open it without you knowing she has done so, and hide the sellotape in the house so she can't re-do it

Fold up some t-shirts and place them in the drawer on top of your stuff so it looks like it's just a drawer for clothes if she opens it up for a nose.

Mousetraps?

Mine went through my jewellery box last time they stayed, I wasn’t quite sure what to make of that one lol 😳