To feel really upset he said this to me?

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After years of struggling with Ill health and family issues that have taken up all my time and energy, I'm finally coming out the other side.
I've decided to retrain for a totally new job, and have started looking after myself more.
I told my partner my plans, including the fact that I was also doing something in memory of my late dad.
He laughed and said "what's this... You're having a midlife crisis?"
Im really upset. He can't see why as he says it was a joke.. Even though he's apologised it's backhanded as its all "well if you feel upset I'm sorry you took it that way etc". But for me it's taken the "shine" off my new found positivity and I thought he'd be proud of how far I'd come.

It’s just one comment. It was tactless. If he’s generally been supportive through this crisis I would let it go.

Don't make a big deal out of it OP. He didn't mean any harm.

Yeah I'm willing to be told its me being over sensitive.. I was just hurt he'd dome out with a stupid comment like that but yeah, I guess I'll forget it.

I'd be hurt too op it was a really stupid comment. I think it depends though if this comment is typical of his attitude to you in general then yes you have a problem if it was just an ill timed joke then it's annoying but I'd let it go.

Sounds a bit insensitive but I don't think it's worth getting too upset over. He sounds pretty decent if he's supported you through all your problems :)