11 year old son wants to co- sleep a lot at the moment

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My kids have always co- slept a lot and I have a fairly relaxed attitude towards it.

DS who is 11 seems to really want to cuddle up at the moment - aibu to think this might be a reaction to all the upcoming change- secondary school etc. I definitely feel like he’s got clingy again and almost regressed a bit in his independence in the last few weeks- he just wants to be by my side a lot.

He’s generally a happy well rounded kid with good friends etc so I am just putting it down to wanting to feel secure as his life changes a lot. He’s quite hormonal and emotional too.

Aibu?

Your child, your house your rules :)

YANBU I'd probably be concerned if it continues too long though. As long as he's confident to go about his life then it wouldn't bother me to give extra cuddles at home.

YANBU. My then 13yo DD went through a similar 6 months phase due to various emotional stuff happening.

Not unreasonable no. I would try to get him to talk about anything that’s worrying him in particular. My eldest is the same age and will be starting high school in September and she is stressed about everything right now and needs to be coaxed into talking about it. This age is a lot more complicated than I remember it being. It’s been a while so I’m probably remembering it wrong though.

I’ve never stopped cosleeping with my 11 year old. He’s a very happy, independent lad so I’ve no worries about it. He just prefers not sleeping alone. Which I think is the same for more people tbh.

Yanbu at all.

YANBU, sounds like with the changes coming up he needs some extra reassurance

@yousay I have been making an effort to ask every day & make sure we have quiet time. He’s been very emotional & I am 99% sure it’s hormones- school is all fine so I think it’s just the life shift. It’s like he wants to grow up one day & then the next he does

I don’t get what your AIBU is

@takethe ?? I am quite clear ‘aibu to think this might be a reaction to the upcoming change’ ???

Minevitable stopped when he started secondary. Friends of mine were still collecting sleeping beyond 11 years. It depends on what feels right for you and your son.

I guess SATs are coming up too and there might be pressure there, as well as the inevitable change with secondary school.

My youngest co-slept a lot with us when he was at school, he found school very stressful. He's home educated now and sleeps happily on his own though he still likes morning snuggles.

I'm all for doing whatever comforts your child and works for you.