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Fall out - ex friends won't cancel one friends share

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Getmyfrownupsidedown · 02/03/2019 16:47

Five friends booked a fairly expensive holiday. No need for details but think mean girls mentality - four against one.

All four unfriended Friend 1. Fair enough, everyone is adult enough to decide who they want to be friends with.

However, Friend 1 - understandably - does not want to now go on holiday with four girls that are mean to her. She is not entitled to full refund but will get a % back if she cancels. This would mean four friends have to pay a nominal increase. All can comfortably afford it.

Four friends refusing to cancel Friend 1 booking.

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kingfisherblue33 · 02/03/2019 17:13

Yes, small claims court!

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Getmyfrownupsidedown · 02/03/2019 17:14

There's a chance they wouldn't give her tickets, that's how nasty and vindictive they are being.

Thank you all for suggestions Flowers

I like the email idea and I'll help her draft something up to send to them. I know some of them and I honestly can't believe how they are behaving.

It all started with Friend 2 (not going on holiday) falling out with Friend 1 in a separate incident. Friend 2 then got close to the mean girls. Mean girls are siding with Friend 2. it escalated from there whereby mean girls started criticising anything Friend 1 did - think things as little as grammar mistakes in group chats.

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thebeesknees123 · 02/03/2019 17:15

Could they find anyone to take her place?

ChakiraChakra · 02/03/2019 17:17

^ yeah, by the sounds of it they can take friend 2 Hmm

Christ on a bike you would not believe these were grown women

BlimeyCalmDown · 02/03/2019 17:19

Can she send someone in her place who will fuck up their holiday gleefully!?

scissorsandpen · 02/03/2019 17:20

Well I can’t understand these women as they won’t want friend 1 to come so you think they would gladly pciver costs. I assume they want to go without her but that she still pays her share. It would be totally illegal to withhold her ticket. I agree with OP maybe friend 2 could take her place.

I have been on the end of this behaviour the new friend and then the subtle bullying starts not cool at all. Who would think grown woman would behave like that and worse do it in packs. Sorry to hear this shot story and you sound like a lovely friend !!!

scissorsandpen · 02/03/2019 17:20

*cover costs

scissorsandpen · 02/03/2019 17:21

*shit not shot bad typing :-)

ReanimatedSGB · 02/03/2019 17:22

If it were me I would go on the holiday anyway, taking some good books and music/podcasts and headphones, and be calm, polite and indifferent to the rest of them. Nothing annoys bullies more than being cheerfully Not Bovvered by their behaviour. (Unless I seriously suspected these people might assault me or destroy my property or something similar). However, if they do something like refuse to hand over tickets or otherwise prevented me from actually going and refuse to refund the money, you bet I would sue.

Loseitandkeepitlost · 02/03/2019 17:22

Just tell her that she needs to put in writing to them that she wants her ticket provided. If she is not given the ticket but the lead name then she will take them to small claims for 100% of the holiday cost as failure to provide a ticket means its their action that caused the effect of not being able to go.

Personally I would still go and enjoy the holiday by myself. I would just ignore the person aharjng the room. However, if she is willing to forfeit the money she has already spent then she can offer a partial refund and cancellation of her part of the booking as an alternative to being provided with her ticket.

reallybadidea · 02/03/2019 17:23

I'd call the holiday company again and pretend to be the friend who booked it and then cancel all of them. They'll probably ask for name, date of birth, address etc which I assume she knows anyway.

scissorsandpen · 02/03/2019 17:25

You guys are brave I don’t think I could go and act breezy :-)

NannyRed · 02/03/2019 17:26

How can the mean friends refuse the cancellation? All the un-mean friend has to say “I’m not coming” and not pay.

If the un-mean friend wan s to be a complete cow, she can report the mean girls as drug smugglers/people trafficking.

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Getmyfrownupsidedown · 02/03/2019 17:26

Friend 1 has read the thread and all your helpful suggestions.

I'll keep you posted on the outcome - but thank you.

As a PS... I am currently looking at booking too Smile

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TokyoSushi · 02/03/2019 17:26

Friend 1 should just cancel and let the mean girls suffer the consequences

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Getmyfrownupsidedown · 02/03/2019 17:28

If only it were that easy! Friend 1 can't cancel, has to be the person that books. She has already paid in full.

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Cherrysoup · 02/03/2019 17:30

Are you looking to book the same holiday? So you can share a room with Friend one and ignore the mean girls?

HollowTalk · 02/03/2019 17:32

I would see a lawyer if I were her. I'm sure some sort of letter from them would do the trick. And THEN she can put it all over social media Grin

AmIOTTconcerned · 02/03/2019 17:33

Reminds me of 'Muriel's Wedding' a bit!

I hope F1 has another friend join her and has a great time!

kingfisherblue33 · 02/03/2019 17:33

Oh, op, if you book too that would be lovely for your friend. Do you get on with the mean girls?

oldmum22 · 02/03/2019 17:35

Friend 1 should not go, it will be a stressful time and nothing good would come of it. Although there is a financial loss involved , I think the strain on dealing with these mean girls would be awful. However , I do believe mean girls ordered champagne upon their arrival (to be added to their bill) and restaurant was booked in name of nastiest mean girl together with correct tel number,non appearance would result in a hefty fee. I hate adults behaving as children , so unnecessary and draining .

Planeticket · 02/03/2019 17:36

Can't friend call her credit card company and request a chargeback? If she is being threatened that she won't receive the tickets and the holiday company won't talk to her than that is fraud.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 02/03/2019 17:36

What Really said, phone up, pretend to be mean girl and cancel it all.

ChakiraChakra · 02/03/2019 17:36

I'd call the holiday company again and pretend to be the friend who booked it and then cancel all of them. They'll probably ask for name, date of birth, address etc which I assume she knows anyway

Shock You are a dastardly genius!!

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Getmyfrownupsidedown · 02/03/2019 17:36

I'm looking to book separately with another mutual friend.

I have only met the mean girls a few times and they were friendly enough. Not a patch on Friend 1 though!

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