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AIBU to go to the cinema with a baby?

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Stuck19 · 02/03/2019 10:51

Ds’s birthday is tomorrow. A few days ago me and my partner discussed what we could do for his birthday, and we agreed that he takes ds to the cinema with a friend. This has all been arranged with his best friend from school and his mum.

I’ll be staying at home with dd who is 5 months old and ebf.

His dad has made a complete u turn, and is now saying he’s not taking them because he doesn’t want to take someone else’s kid out. Would I be unreasonable to take them myself with dd? I know it sounds crazy taking a baby in to the cinema, but I have no other options!

What would you do?

OP posts:
Treaclesweet · 02/03/2019 10:53

Tell his Dad to stop being a selfish prick.

How old is your son? As I wouldn't want to leave an under 10 in the cinema alone if the baby kicks off and you have to go stand outside.

Chloemol · 02/03/2019 10:54

Not take the baby. It’s unfair to them, load noise etc and unfair to others if it starts crying. Leave the baby with the father and you take the child and his friend

Chloemol · 02/03/2019 10:55

Sorry re bc why can’t you express and leave some in case of need, orthe child doesn’t go

Sexnotgender · 02/03/2019 10:55

That’s very weird! Is he usually like this?

I wouldn’t take a baby to the cinema without ear defenders. You also can’t really abandon 2 ten year olds if baby starts screaming.

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Stuck19 · 02/03/2019 10:56

He’ll be 8. I don’t really want to leave them both on their own if dd starts crying.

Either he takes them or we’ll have to cancel, but it’s me picking up the pieces eg informing the parents, having to tell ds etc which I guess I’m just trying to avoid 😞

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katykins85 · 02/03/2019 10:56

Tell himto grow the fuck up and take them. Don't take the baby, massively unfair on everyone else

user764329056 · 02/03/2019 10:57

Please don’t take a baby to the cinema, their ears are so sensitive and films are way too loud for them

Tinkhasflown · 02/03/2019 10:57

I've brought a 5 month old before but it was nap time so they slept all through the movie. For kids movies people aren't exactly quiet and expect some noise. You could get DH to go with you so he is with boys if you need to nip out with a crying baby.

I think your DH is being pretty unreasonable though!

LL83 · 02/03/2019 10:58

Can you all go? Then dad only has to supervise in cinema if baby is crying? (Or take baby a walk if not crying for food)

Ridiculous he can't entertain son and friend at the cinema though.

Original poster
Stuck19 · 02/03/2019 10:58

I’ve tried expressing but it’s so hard! And she doesn’t really take to bottles.

Yes he has form for doing stuff like this. More fool me for actually giving him the benefit of the doubt!

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Switsy · 02/03/2019 10:58

Don't bring your baby to the cinema. Give your partner a metaphorical boot up the arse. Selfish git not wanting to put himself out.

peachgreen · 02/03/2019 10:59

What a waste of space he is.

Original poster
Stuck19 · 02/03/2019 10:59

I won’t take dd. I knew it wouldn’t be a good idea for her sake as well as every one else’s.

We could all go. I didn’t think of that!

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ChanklyBore · 02/03/2019 11:00

I go to the cinema every couple of months and have taken the dc at all ages. They have always been made welcome. I don’t understand why you wouldn’t take a baby to a kids film. There are usually several in there.

lilyfire · 02/03/2019 11:02

You probably know your baby best. I took both my two younger ones to the cinema as babies that age with their older brother. They were ebf and at that age I knew that if they whimpered I could feed them and they wouldn’t cry - they’d just feed probably until they fell asleep because it was dark. I didn’t have a problem. If you think your baby is similar then take him and get your partner to come as well. If your baby does cry you can take him outside and your partner will be with the boys - but doesn’t have the responsibility of travelling alone with them etc.

Jackshouse · 02/03/2019 11:02

Can’t you all go? Then DP is not on his own but you can leave the cinema.

But DP is a selfish prick. I remember having to do my niece’s birthday party with a small group of kids at a cake place because her DH won’t and my DSis was stuck at home with unwell bf toddler. Apparently he couldn’t manage the party or the toddler by himself. Hmm I worked with much older kids but did not have any of my own.

IWantChocolates · 02/03/2019 11:03

You do have an option: tell your partner he either takes the kids to the cinema or he has to tell everyone about the change in plan. His choice, he can let DS know himself.

Why would you facilitate his change of mind, especially when he has no reason?

FullOfJellyBeans · 02/03/2019 11:05

Why is his dad being such a dick? I would go with all of them then you can duck out if need be with the newborn.

Nothinglefttochoose · 02/03/2019 11:08

Do not take a baby to the cinema unless it’s the one where babies are encouraged. Very rude to
Others in the theatre

Mmmhmmm · 02/03/2019 11:12

Your partner is a selfish prick.

Switsy · 02/03/2019 11:13

What's the big deal with supervising someone else's child anyway? Because it's such an onerous task to buy an extra ticket and sit near the child for 2 hours while they all watch a film? Confused You sound nice, OP, but you need to have a frank discussion with your partner about his duties as a parent.

CandyCreeper · 02/03/2019 11:16

How do you think single mums manage?. I took all my 4 to the cinema. Baby was a few months and slept through the film. And your partner doesnt sound very nice “not wanting to take someone elses child out” its your DC friend!

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 02/03/2019 11:25

Your partner is being out of order. If the trip gets cancelled I'd make sure he was the one telling DS and the friend's parents.

But otherwise i would go and just nip out if the baby started crying. They'd be fine in the theatre. But I'd leave the partner at home, I really wouldn't be in the mood to be spending any time with him!

HJWT · 02/03/2019 11:35

Why not take a baby into a child's film? She cant crawl or walk of? If she moans a bit give her a toy?

Its a shame everyone is so soft these days 😁

Livid21 · 02/03/2019 12:19

Is your partner your son's dad? Is he always such a knob?

I fear if you think about it there will be plenty of other occasions when his twattery has left you in the lurch. I hope I'm wrong.

I was married to a total knob and didn't realise it fully until I was divorced.