Kids party RSVPs

[Mangetoutrodney]

First post here- it’s my 6 year old DDs birthday party next week & she has invited 12 kids from school to her party- 3 can’t come & 3 have said yes. No reply from the othere. I texted the parents as was worried that the invites didn’t get to them but no reply to texts either.
Aibu to be pissed off about it. My DD has been to half those kids parties & we always RSVP. I don’t want to chase but aibu to think they could respond to a text?
Should I cancel party? My DD will be so upset. It makes me not want to bother organising parties as I find it so stressful

I wouldn't text, I would ring.

OP, if you can text, then you can ring. That would be more productive than whingeing on here, although you would miss out on having a bunch of anonymous internet users patting you on the back for your superior manners and organisational skills.

maddening but commonplace, sadly.
I know of two parents who will openly admit to hanging fire until the day before in case they get a better offer, and who cannot be made to understand how unworkable it would be if everyone did the same.

over the years we have learnt two major lessons:

• work out who the reliable turner-uppers are in any given year group and make sure a core of these kids are invited
• talk to venues about paying only for the bare minimum number in advance, and adding "extras" on the day - we've found most to be receptive to this.

I hate this. I've had this before I don't get why it's so difficult to send a bloody response. Fair enough if you send out invites 6 months in advance people won't know if they're free or not but a few weeks in advance you can say yes or now (even saying "let me get back to you I just have to find out if we're free" would be better). I had to chase and chase - I asked one mum to her face (after a text and email) and she said they couldn't because they had a weekend away booked - why not just bloody say so then so I can invite someone else.

OP, if you can text, then you can ring. That would be more productive than whingeing on here, although you would miss out on having a bunch of anonymous internet users patting you on the back for your superior manners and organisational skills.

What a nasty reply. You could say that about any thread "why not just do X instead of making a thread about it?" I'm about the most disorganised person in the world but replying to an invite or text isn't difficult or some kind of virtue signalling it's the very basics of manners.

I put the times and date on the invite and tell them to RSVP for location.
Also I don't issue invites more than a week in advance . We live in the ME it seems everyone , even British expats can't get their heads around RSVP ettiquette.
Usual to :
Don't bother to RSVP or
RSVP then don't turn up
Turn up late (cake cutting time !!)
Bring an uninvited sibling or cousin or ten.
Leave the nanny with the kids who pockets sweets and treats and asks for party bag !

Hope your DS has a lovely day OP

till the end when i ran out of party boxes
rookie mistake. Label ALL the party boxes/bags to make sure they go to the correct child.

Sorry DD xx

not used to RSVP like a normal human being, are we DontMakeMeShushYou?

I’m not sure which ones I despise the most, parents who don’t reply or parent’s who bring uninvited siblings...
Complete lack of manners in both cases.

I’m in this exact position as it’s my sons birthday next weekend too. So far I’ve had 1 decline and 4 yes’s , the other 6 haven’t bothered to rsvp yet. People are rude.

@StinkyCandle
??? I'm not sure what you're getting at. I reply to party invites as soon as practically possible, although I may have forgotten 1 or 2 until I got a reminder. If people haven't responded to invites I've sent, I just chase them up. I assume they've just forgotten. It happens. I don't think badly of them. If that makes me abnormal, that's fine with me

Or perhaps you were thinking that I should be lurking around on this thread waiting to see if anyone responded to my post so I could instantly reply back? Haha! No, I have better things to do on a Saturday afternoon than hang around Mumsnet to see if people disagree with me. If that makes me abnormal, that's also fine with me.

DontMakeMeShushYou
calm down dear, it doesn't make you any less rude for not replying, forcing people to chase you, and for being so offended by the OP

@StinkyCandle
Oh dear! I'm so sorry you felt forced to chase me. Please don't feel the need to do so again.

Is it just attention seeking i am so popular / too busy bullshit. Don't have time to send a 5 second text but if we have nothing better to do on your birthday we may as well drop in.

DontMakeMeShushYou

make yourself a nice cup of tea, you are becoming a bit silly.

Friend had a party last week, 12 kids had rsvp’d to say they were coming, 40 showed up!

I was having kittens before dds 5yh bd last year. Hardly anyone rsvps but everyone came and wanted the whole cake/party bag shizzle!! There’s no answer. It’s shot and designed to send your blood pressure through the roof.

I chase them up in the playground about a week before, it's always the same people and more often than not they'll blatantly lie and say they text to reply.

I've recently had dd's party and as well as having to chase the selfish usual non responders there were 8 uninvited siblings that turned up!

Oh god! Chasing RSVPs is a complete nightmare. I have literally had to hound via SMS and at pick up time. Utterly nuts and such bad manners not to RSVP.

And yes, uninvited siblings do my head in also! Expecting to be fed and get a party bag lol.

you sound very kind if you give uninvited siblings a party bag!