To think he’ll cheat

[Celeste87]

My brother recently confided in me that he thinks he’s never been in love. This was a bit of a surprise considering he’s 37 with a wife and young daughter. He didn’t seem particularly upset about it and there’s no OW on the horizon as far as I’m aware. He’s had 3 girlfriends before his wife, who’s a nice woman.

I’m concerned that he’s going to meet someone else, fall in love and his life will get turned upside down. He’s an attractive guy (I’m told!), has a great job and has had a lot of interest from women in the past.

How is this likely to pan out?

I love my brother and want him to be happy and will support him whatever path he goes down.

Ignore it. There is no definition of love

Maybe he’s gay 🤷‍♀️

Does he love his wife and want to be with her? The whole being in love ting doesn't last imo, I haven't with dh for fourteen years I love him and can't imagine life without him , but it's not exciting ,butterflies in the stomach feeling like it was in the beginning .

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Surely you have better things in your life to be worrying about?

I don’t think he’s gay. He’s always been very interested in women.

He seems to get on alright with his wife. I was too shocked when he said it to ask for more information. He’s the kind of person who ticks along and does what’s expected of him. He says he follows his head and not his heart. He was with his wife for 6 years before they got married. All of his friends were getting married and having children and I suspect he just didn’t put up any resistance to the notion of getting engaged.

I feel sad for him. I want him to get to experience love.

I wonder if he’ll meet someone, fall in love with her (or him!) and then his world will change into something unrecognisable.

Nothing like over thinking

Maybe the SIL will cheat have a passionate fling with her tennis coach and leave DB?

Sadiesnakes what than my brother’s happiness? Yeah...

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking, I don’t think so. She clearly adores him and is in awe of him.

I feel sad for him. I want him to get to experience love.

I feel more sad for his DW who he clearly isn't terribly in awe of. Has he ever told her he loves her? If so (and you'd assume after 6 years, a child and a wedding that he has) he's obviously lied to her and strung her along. That's revolting.

@fudge - you can love someone without being in love. Hardly revolting, that in its self is a bit of an over reaction.

I want him to get to experience love. or rather you want him to experience your vision of love.

@fudge - you can love someone without being in love. Hardly revolting, that in its self is a bit of an over reaction.

What nonsense. If you love someone enough to marry them and start a family, you shouldn't need to make the distinction between love and in love because it's implied by your words and deeds towards that person you're committing to spend the rest of your life with.

Standing in front of friends and family saying those words then announcing "I've never been in love" is the behaviour of a terribly selfish person, particularly when the OP says the DW is madly in love with him. He knows this, he used her love of him to tick a box because friends were doing it and that's gutless.

He’s always been one to do things to please others. I just didn’t ever think it would go to this extreme.

But how long can he do that for? Forever?