AIBU to correct the way people speak?

[Sarahlou63]

Not a grammar Nazi but I host lots of volunteers and I have grown to hate, hate, hate the word 'like'. (Most are 18-25, female and British/European/American).

"I was, like, going to, like, my friend's and she was, like, late so, like, I was really, like, cross with her." Arrrrgggghhhhh!!!

I've started, like, really calling them out, like, on using the L word or am I going to stunt their emotional growth, like?!?

My teenage sibling says like, like literally every sentence, like legit every sentence, you totes get me

Im guilty of using "so i turned around and said" or similar when telling a story its very hard to stop myself, then i imagine spinning on the spot, jazz hands!

My cousin once said to me 'you say 'like' a lot' in a conversational tone, but didn't make a big deal of it. I made a mental note to try not to do it. It's word junk.
I still say she was right.

My kids and her friends do this, I just zone out until they speak properly

My company is moving office to a commonly mispronounced area of London. Almost everyone in the office keeps pronouncing it X (as per the spelling) when it’s actually Y. I keep pronouncing Y as regularly and deliberately as possible in the hope people will catch on. Eventually someone asked me if they were mispronouncing it and I was delighted to say yes

Also, my vegetarian boss keeps talking about recipes made with ‘toff-oo’. It makes me want to kill him with my bare hands.

I hate overuse of it, and there's things my kids come out with which they learn from their peers but I try and ignore it where possible because I still pick things up too. IE, I seem to start many sentences with 'so' now

I totally get how grating that is, but calling anyone out in how they speak makes you an obnoxious prick

YABVVU

I correct DH A LOT. But then he shouldn't get simple words wrong. "I need to shave my side boards, they're really fluffy"
".....do you mean side burns?" "Yes" "Say side burns then"
He also pronounced calcium as "kell-see-um" and it makes me want to rip his face off.

I'm with you on the "like" though, my nieces are 17 and 21 and they drive me up the wall with the likes. Not that I know what they're going on about half the time anyway.

@StillCoughingandLaughing is it Ruislip?

Still is it Plaistow?

Gunpowder sideboards is just another word for sideburns, though...

Isn’t it? As soon as I posted that I started to doubt myself. Will look it up...

Phew, it is!

Don't know about them but you truly sound horrible and extremely immature
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I correct DH A LOT. But then he shouldn't get simple words wrong. "I need to shave my side boards, they're really fluffy"
".....do you mean side burns?" "Yes" "Say side burns then" ^
He also pronounced calcium as "kell-see-um" and it makes me want to rip his face off.^

Urghyour poor DH

& you'll be straight on the relationship boards whinging when he's finally seen sense & pissed off & found himself a new, less less abusive partner

Sideboards is equally correct, unless you want to be really nit picky in which case sideburn would be wrong too as it's derived from burnside which was the original name 🤷🏼‍♀️

@rockin, it's disgusting to refer to someone simply correcting the choice of words used by their husband as abusive. FFS.

Rockin you ok Hun?

I forgot that in MN land getting irritated occasionally by your partner constitutes abuse IRL if I said that to a friend they'd probably say "god yes that would annoy me too". Luckily my DH isn't a snowflake who crumbles every time I get irritated by him so I think we're good for now 👍🏽

And yes I'd be pretty annoyed if he cheated on me but I can assure you she'd send him back after the 14th misuse of the word "whom" that day

Not really mouse. If a woman was saying her DH was doing this all the time, everyone would be shouting abusive & LTB 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think ‘like’ gets used in place of ‘um’ a lot nowadays. I don’t think it’s the word so much as the waiting for the point of the sentence. It could be worse, my grandma will pause in the middle of a sentence and we have to wait for her to finish. It’s not even that she’s forgotten what she’s saying, it’s just her version of the ‘um’ ‘like’ tick...

"Rockin you ok Hun?"

That right there is a fine example. Hun absolutely grates on my nerves, but it's in common use & not my place to tell you how you should speak. It may well grate in your DHs nerves too🤷🏼‍♀️

A Light hearted moan that it irritates you, isn't the same thing as admitting you constantly pull someone up on how they speak. The later smacks of superiority & a right to do so, which imho if done frequently is belittling & abusive 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have to restrain myself when a couple of my colleagues say "Pacific" instead of "specific" .... it drives me nuts !!

A friend of mine sent me a text this week with "defiantly" in place of definitely. I had to switch off my phone for a while so I wouldn't reply with something patronising and rude.

YABU to correct people on their speech. It's not your place unless you're their Mother, and even then as they get older you'll find their speech and language change depending on their location; DS13 speaks differently when he's with his friends to how he speaks when he's with grandparents. I'm alright with that; he knows when it's ok to be sloppy with language and when to step it up. Most people do.

It’s just a filler though isn’t it? I find it similar to “uhm” and “ahh” splattered through conversation.

Although the whole “pacific” instead of “specific” reminds me of this pic I shared on FB years ago.

Hun absolutely grates on my nerves, but it's in common use & not my place to tell you how you should speak. It may well grate in your DHs nerves too

My comment was tongue in cheek.

Correcting someone's malapropisms is not abusive, it's quite normal.

For the pedants out there - enjoy