Is it unreasonable for a disabled person to park in a P and C space?

[HappybutsometimesGrouchy]

My Dh is disabled and has a blue badge. Today we drove up to our local shop which has 1 Disabled space and 1 P and C space. The disabled space was taken (by someone with no blue badge, might I add!) there is a car behind us waiting to park so we drove into the P and C space and I got out to help my dh. The woman in the car behind us rolls down her window and starts shouting obscenities at us saying we have no right to be parking there as we have no kids. I apologise to her and explain my husband has a blue badge and really needs the extra space to get out of the car. She then tells me she doesn't give a fuck, she has a child and needs the space also. I said I would move the car once I got my dh out and she charmingly tells me to 'piss right off you fat bitch' and drives on. I'm a bit shook up by at, I am not good at confrontation and she has upset me. Obviously she was BU to shout abuse at me but was it wrong of me to take the space? Happy to be told if it was.

I'm sick to death of these women who think because they popped a baby out they are entitled to special treatment. P & C spaces are courtesy spaces not legally enforceable parking areas, having a baby didn't render them unable to walk across a feckin car park. You should have told the ugly cow to feck off with her ugly brat.

having a baby didn't render them unable to walk across a feckin car park.

Bless. My father used to say "They may get bit breathy if they have to walk from the other side of a carpark, but I will most likely drop dead in the middle. So I am parking wherever is near the entrance."
Once he got frustrated at the number, the lack, of disabled spaces and parked in a loading bay😂

Those places should be for heavily pregnant women and those who have car seats to remove or dc under 2 maybe three.
You were well in you right because they are meant to offer extra space when needed not just cause you popped a dc out.
My ds is one and I can easily get him out so I dont really use them, but when I had to remove the seat I did other wise I would have to take him out attached the car seat to the buggy and move the car.
The worse are GRANDMOTHERS, a cf pulled in to a space and walk in the shop, but had a car seat in the back. I see this a lot.
Next time smile and say mind your business. If they start to be abusive, sweetly tell them to suck your furry toe!
It usually shuts them up

No disability is not a choice. You get the parking space.

Only a complete dick would challenge a BB holder in a P&C space.

If they start to be abusive, sweetly tell them to suck your furry toe! I did have a little laugh at this . Thank you all so much for being so nice. I will admit I struggle with these things and may have shed some tears . I really hope I don't bump into that woman again. Really feel like avoiding the shop now.

Don't let this ridiculous fuckmuppet woman put you off using the shop, OP. You were entirely in the right.

Christ she sounds like a bunch of roses. You definitely weren't being UR. If I had a child and we needed a space you took, I'd thank my lucky stars that myself nor my child were disabled and able to use a normal space.

I really don't get people that confront other people/yell obscenities in public.

I really don't get people that confront other people/yell obscenities in public.

This, I don't get it at all. Why would anyone want to show themselves up like that? I really pity her DC.

And no, you definitely weren't unreasonable. Blue badge trumps a parent and child, who can easily park in a normal parking space.

Myusernameismud They could end losing the badge & getting a fine if he is misusing it

As so many posters have said Disability "trumps" Children. Obviously. So the OP need not have any concern.
I suppose there is the hypothetical possibility that a person with a very mild disability may take a space from a parent with (say) several small children and numerous baby buggies.
But the ultimate responsibility for that situation lies with the owner of the car park.

People with a very mild disability don't get blue badge,s @OnlyaMan, I have a child with not so mild autism and learning disabilities with absolutely no sense of danger he is not entitled to a blue badge they are very strict about who.get them.

Onlyaman, do you actually know how difficult it is to get a blue badge?
My dm had to battle to get hers - she has severe arthritis and COPD.
You need to educate yourself.

As someone who has had a carseat on each side of the car, I'd still say blue badge in p&c space. I could usually park further away and wrangle everyone out, I don't need to be that close to the shops, and carparks are rarely that busy that I can't get a suitable space.

Best carparks are those with wide spaces for everyone, or where everyone is parked at an angle so there is always one side clear, much less bickering there.

One of the supermarkets moved the p&c spaces further from the door and they are miraculously easier to get a space in, so definitely the way forward.

She’s a horrible scrote OP, you did nothing wrong. I pity her child.

If they start to be abusive, sweetly tell them to suck your furry toe

I bark at them, loudly. Works every time.

ODFOD. I have blue badges and absolutely park in P&C courtesy spaces if all the BB ones are taken. The reason i do it is because ALL supermarkets allow it.

The ODFOD was at the witch abusing you not you OP. It's late and I've taken my meds.

How awful to be that woman, shouting at somebody who parks in a disabled space. How awful to have her for a mother. Put the low life out of your mind.

I have parked in a P and C space with my mum who has a blue badge. Admittedly I do feel a bit guilty and will move my car if a disabled space becomes free.

I'd absolutely say disabled people could use them over P&C tbh. It's the people who are neither that are CFs!

You were in the right. She was in the wrong with a side order of horrible.

However, my local tesco has 10 P&C and 25 disabled spaces. I have never seen all 25 spaces full, but I have seen a blue badge holder with no children park in a P&C space which gave me the rage. They WBU because in all 25 disabled spaces, there were 7 cars.

There always one.

Who seriously gets the rage at disabled people parking wherever is easiest for them?

YANBU! ... if the disabled parking was full and your DH needs extra space to get safely out of the car , you were dead right to take that p and c space.
That other lady sounds unhinged !!!
Ignore her and do the same thing again tomorrow if you have to.

YANBU!
DM once parked in a P&C space with my blue badge holding grandmother as all Disabled Parking spaces were taken with not a blue badge to be seen on any of the occupant cars. She was loudly abused by a woman driver "You can't park there - it's for people with children" to which my mild mannered DM politely replied "We are a parent and child" and walked away .