Judgemental dad

[Crouchendmumoftwo]

AIBU to find this dad overly judgemental?

"Collecting xx from nursery school I watched a mum arrive with her head in her phone... minutes later she came out with her 2 year old, her head still in the phone. The kid was trying to talk to mum. She ignored him. But I guess it must have been really important for her to neglect her kid. As they say, “meet you kid with a hug not a phone”.

What Dad?

He is right. How hard is it to put the phone down for the time it takes to pick your child up?

Honestly unless it was really really important I’d be judgmental too. I leave mine in the car when fetching my son.

Oh Right, Sorry, thats what the Dad said?

Would you feel the Same if it was a Mum said it?

And No I don't find him overly judgemental, I would think the same, poor kid just finished nursery and wanting to speak to their mum but she's too busy on fb/mn whatever.

Was it said about You?

Is this a ridiculous FB post you've picked up ? TBH its not something I could get worked up about, let alone bring to a forum to dissect

Who is the dad? And why is it that it's a dad commenting relevant? I don't get this? If it's a facebook post, just say it's a facebook post.

As for being judgemental, yes, it's judgemental. I instinctively tend to assume these are bad parents if the chid is being ignored or whatever. But I remind myself we know nothing. Perhaps she's been up with the 2 year old, who has been talking her ear off, since 5am. Perhaps the issue on the phone is genuinely important for work or family reasons. Who knows. So judging without more information is impossible.

If you see the same woman , day after day, ignoring her kids.. then sure, go ahead and judge. But not sure what the point is.

God. We have these at my school. No one knows what shit that mother was maybe dealing with on her phone. I bet if you manage to track the dad down online he’ll have a dadstagram account full of pretty pictures of his kids or something. Most people are hypocrites.

Yes he was being judgemental.
Yes he is probably a bit of a twat.
If I was judging him (as we all do) I might think ‘I bet his wife finds him a joy to live with’.

It's judgmental in the sense that yes, in theory, maybe that particular mother was in the middle of some kind of crisis requiring an emergency phoine conversation. She probably wasn't though. We all know that smartphone addiction is having a negative effect on family relationships and human interaction. So his point is valid, even if people don't want to hear it.

What is it with MN that apparently no one is entitled to judge anyone else about anything? I judge people all the time, and they judge me. There's no law against it. We don't have thought crime in this country. People are completely free to think what they like about who they like because of what they like.

Everyone need to get over it.

Of COURSE people should be engaging with their kids and not fucking about on their smartphone, but as has been said, no-one knows what the young mother was saying/doing/sorting out/talking to. It's got fuck-all to do with this nosey git. So yes he IS judgemental and nosey. If I had been the young mother and someone (like this man) had said something to me; I would have told them to fuck off.

Yes @Lifecraft everyone is more than entitled to judge whoever they like. Including me.

I am also, more than entitled to tell them to fuck off and mind their own business. Which I have done in the past, and would do in the future, if someone felt the need to stick their fat neb into my business.

@HoppityFrog3 why do you assume She's a Young Mother? Are Older Mothers incapable of being shit parents?

To be fair, sounds like his got a point! Hate seeing children trying to talk an the parent more interested in the phone.

This is mumsnet so of course you have to remeber, her cat/dog or hamster may be dead or some such other excuse.

Everyone judges people for stuff, only on mumsnet do people never

@Hoppityfrog3 Yes@Lifecraft everyone is more than entitled to judge whoever they like. Including me.

I am also, more than entitled to tell them to fuck off and mind their own business. Which I have done in the past, and would do in the future, if someone felt the need to stick their fat neb into my business.

Absolutely right.

I'm entitled to judge you, you are entitled to tell me to fuck off, I'm entitled to add "abusive chav" to the other judgements I've made about you.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets how real life works.

I did that recently whilst organising my grandmother's funeral. I'm such a bad mother.