To take my 3yo with me to the hairdressers?

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Posting here because it's only just occurred to me I might be being really cheeky and I might turn up and piss them off.

I've got a hair appointment tomorrow. Cut, blow & foils so will be there a while. It's a new place I've not been to before. It's newly opened, went in today and door was locked (had to buzz to get in) and there was only one client & one hairdresser there. Nice waiting area close to chairs.

I've got a lot going on this week and tomorrow was the only day I could fit it in. I'm desperate for a tidy up.
Dd is 3, she will be 4 in April. She's really good, but I don't have anybody that could watch her in that time so I'd have to take her with me.
I'm thinking a little bag of snacks and an iPad for some games.

I'm being a cf aren't I?

Like I said the salon was locked shut yesterday and I know I'm the only person booked in so I don't think anybody else would be there.
I would keep my eyes on her at all times and you don't really notice she's there but I still feel like it would be a pain for the hairdresser 🤷‍♀️

I didn't used the do this. I could have as dc was a dream. I do think it's a long apt though and she's taking up space in what sounds like a small salon. It also winds me up a bit when people do this in my salon.

Kids sat there glued to I pads and the actual clients standing at reception.

@Grandadwasthatyou
Don't be so negative! It's too early in the morning for that!!!! 😂😂😂

No this is just ridiculous. Your going to be there hours, even longer because you're going to be interrupted. Its not fair on your child, the other customers or the stylist.

Agreed grandad! I'm sure people wouldn't be rude directly, but talking to a stranger's kids is not exactly what you go to the hairdresser for.. that time is precious!

@MiGi777 you sound like one of those ghastly parents who think their children are a delight for people to talk to. I would be polite to them because it's not their fault they are there but I'd be really pissed off deep inside. The hairdressers is me time.

MiGi if i had left my DD with childcare and went to the salon where your child was talking to me I'd be really put out. I wouldn't say anything or be rude, but I'd really not like it at all.

It's quite likely some of the people he's chatting to would really rather he wasn't.

I'm about to spend a lot of money on a new cut and colour, I haven't had a cut since DD was born 2 years ago, and I've never had a professional colour. I'm suffering from stress and depression, this is hopefully going to mark a turning point for me (for other reasons, but I'm hoping a visual pick me up each time I look in a mirror will help)

I'm sure your DS is very well behaved (so is my DD) and absolutely adorable. But the other adults there can hardly leave half way through a cut, so they're captive to interacting with him, it's not OK to force that on people.

I wouldn’t engage in a conversation with someone else’s child in the hairdressers if it was a case of them being there while parent was having hair done. Not to be rude but because I know that when you have started to engage that’s it and they will keep on wanting to engage and that’s not why I go to the hairdressers!

If you have no childcare then mobile hairdressers are great.

I wouldn’t OP. It’s not fair on her, your hairdresser or other clients. She may well be good but she could get bored, need the loo etc and you can’t look after her while you’re having your hair done.

Sorry, the point of my sob story above, is that it may well be more than the physical action of having hair cut for other customers - you don't know what else is going on in their lives, it might well be something that isn't a regular occurance and that they've had to save for to get just a little time that is just about them, and your child could be being quite intrusive over and above what's immediately obvious to you.

Why did you make such a long appointment if you had no one to look after her? Please don't just turn up with her, ask the salon first.

Ask them beforehand - someplaces will refuse on the basis that here are hot irons/ hairdyes/ ammonia.

MiGi777 you’re being unbelievably cheeky taking twins while you get your hair done! Like others have said, for many women going to the hairdressers is time for them to have some peace and time out from their own dc and I’m sure most women don’t want to have to entertain someone else’s children while their mum has her hair done.
I like children but I wouldn’t be engaging with yours.

Why don’t you get a mobile hairdresser.

Just read the notice in the window of my local salon, explaining why they were going child free.
So probably not a good idea to take DD

I'd stop going to a hairdresser's that allowed this. Health and safety issues are present.

Take her and then ask the hairdresser if it is okay. Most hairdressers are ameniable to such things. I have seen children with their mothers on the odd occasion and usually it works out without mich bother. Hope the hair cut is good.

Ring this morning and ask the stylist what her rules are?
You shouldn't really just rock up with a toddler for 3 hour appointment,and posters saying let her sit on your lap,how straight do you want your haircut?trying to weave foils and get it straight to the root without slip marks isn't going to be easy with a three year old in and off your lap op.

Even if nobody else will be in the salon it's still pushing time and service for the stylist isn't it.

Lots of people who can't get childcare tend to have mobile hairdressers while their dc are young and not In school or pre school.

Scissors hot straighteners,hair colour and expensive equipment is a hazard.

We have a sign asking that children attending for their own haircuts are to sit on designated seating area until it's their turn and are not to run around.
It also asks that parents think carefully before bringing them along due to other clients in the salon trying to enjoy a relaxing experience maybe away from their own hectic dc and life.

It's pretty inconsiderate to be honest

Phone in advance and ask.

It sounds like a small 'personal' place, so not sure if they'd want to be listening to a child chattering, the noise of the ipad and some won't even want food being brought in (not sure I'd bother with snacks, just feed her before you go).

On the other hand, you might be completely surprised and they may be used to parents bringing their kids.

Can I just reiterate that in this circumstance I will be the only client there, it's only me booked in. So it's more a case of is it appropriate in those circs if she's well behaved.

Have always had a mobile hairdresser before which is why I'm unsure. She's got a lot going on and can't fit me in at the moment.

I used to take mine at this age. I’d buy him a magazine on the way and he’d just sit there no problem! I usually went at quiet times when I was the only client in.

I’m in agreement with the ‘take her with you’ camp. At least the hairdressers will be a familiar place when she is having her first little trim. I’ve been a customer when a toddler was screaming blue murder and all the hairdresser had done was put a gown around the child’s neck.

It wouldn’t bother me if another customer had her child with her. You sound pretty well organised with snacks and iPad so hopefully it will be ok for all involved.

I'm not being cheeky. I've known my hairdresser years. It's an expensive ish salon but so friendly and welcoming. I called for an appointment and said I'd have to check with my mum if she was available to mind the girls on the time and date they offered me and they said "No just bring them in!" So I did. They chatted away to the staff, they didn't approach customers obviously and ended up having a fab time because a couple of the stylists on a break painted their nails, braided their hair and it was just so nice!! They make a point of saying to me to bring them in if I want to and I take them to have their own hair cut there now. I don't know-I just enjoyed the day but then I'm naturally happy and positive so there we go!!! 😃

Given you're the only client booked in then, I'd call the saloon and check that they'd be okay with a well behaved three year old present.

I changed hairdressers after an appointment where a woman had her 3 DC with her. It was so stressful, I didn't enjoy it for one minute and the stylists looked pretty pissed off too having to keep moving their trolleys with open bowls of hair colour and bleach when the kids were running wild. I emailed them to say I didn't want to visit a salon that allowed it.

New one I go to has a big sign saying due to health and safety, children have to sit in the waiting area and be supervised at all times by an adult.

YABU. It's not a safe place for an unsupervised child.... and yes you will not be able to supervise when your hair is being rinsed/coloured.