DD is just 16 and has some SEN. She hasn't much confidence and has had a shit time at school recently so having something to give her confidence is important.
She attends an out of school activity which has junior leaders who lead some of the activities. Before she started due to the nature of the activity I checked it was suitable for her needs. On a lot of occasions the adults are in a separate room which I wasn't aware of but the kids are all high school age.
Last year DD had some issues with a junior leader who everytime they are in a mood takes it out on them.
This leader had threatened to damage a piece of equipment purchased by us if it wasn't in perfect state as someone had done it to them. The junior leader has also threatened others with this. We got past this and DD settled and has come on leaps and bounds, the adult leader told us he could see something in her and she was due to progress to another level very soon as a result .
This week a much younger person at the club has told DD that the junior leader is knocking their confidence as everytime they try something new it's not good enough.
Tonight the junior leader has pulled DD out Infront of everyone in a strop and made her do something which involved a lot of co-ordination over and over again faster and faster each time to a point that they were shouting again before DD had finished the first time until DD got upset. DD has amongst other things Dyspraxia and processing issues.
When they moved onto the next activity the junior leader has continued to single DD out telling her basically she wasn't doing good enough.
DD has come home humiliated, in tears and very very upset and is refusing to go back.
Aibu to be angry that the one thing that she enjoyed and gave her any confidence has been ruined.
Would you report even though DD won't go back?