My adult dd drives me mad !!

[screamifyouwant]

Love her to bits but ffs
Constantly leaves heating on when it's not cold
Constantly washing clothes
I've come home tonight and her wet trainers that's she's washed again in the machine . She used all my washing tablets .
Bath mat and towels on floor .
I love her but god I feel like killing her sometimes.
She's at uni early 20's , I'm constantly moaning at her and it's pissing me off .
I'm going to make her buy me some new washing tablets .
I probably should be glad that she likes to be so clean but seriously

My youngest daughter wears stuff for days on end but my eldest was always washing clothes especially at night when I would just be dropping off and the fast spin cycle would start! When I go round to her house now either the washing machine is on or there's clothes drying all over the place !!

She's at uni and still at home? That's a bit annoying

Also, the 6am showers before work then rampaging around the house opening and shutting doors! She didn't leave home till she was 28, it's so peaceful now

Lots of DC at Uni live at home these days. Not anybody's choice but better that than be saddled with thousands of £ debt for years to come.
All these things are annoying and you have to set ground rules but just remember, it won't be forever. And you'll actually miss her when she does move out. Maybe not immediately though😄

@Vulpine
She move out couldn't afford to all the washing she does 
@huntinghighandlow I hope it's not another 8 years

I've tried to set rules but she just goes ok humouring me I think .
I know it's petty but I'm thinking shall I hide my washing tablets

Can you ask her to contribute a small amount towards the weekly shop to cover stuff like washing tablets? Assume she gets a maintenance loan? She'd have to buy all this stuff herself if she lived in student accommodation.

I've decided to give up on all that with mine (although only back in the hols) as this will be the last year or so I will likely have her back with me so want to focus on making positive memories with her before she disappears being too busy with her own life. I'm seeing this as the building blocks of our future adult relationship, the nagging was just making everything so negative and actually made her do less. Plus she does have the skills as she is apparently the tidy one in her student house share....

Better to have a clean dd than one with hygiene problems

@VioletCharlotte
I think the contribution is a good idea , my utility bills have gone up . She needs to understand that these things cost money .

Brace yourself for a disagreement! They don't always like to be asked to contribute. My DC didn't, but was fine with it after a few weeks and forgot we discussed it not long afterwards.

Oh god.

My daughter when she was 24 - when she used to come home for holidays from Uni, her bodyclock completely different to ours

she would be getting up out of bed, as i was getting in from work at 6pm. she wouldnt want to eat with us as it was breakfast time for her....It was a real problem as I am a very light sleeper, and she would be in and out of the bathroom and toilet all night, she would be doing her thing during the night, washing, cooking - I would come down the next morning to all her pots in the kitchen and grease splattered up the wall.....and they would still be there when I got home from work, preventing me from cooking for the rest of us...and she had been in bed all day

Urgh

Glad those days are over

The contribution was agreed and she will buy me some washing tablets

Great 👍🏻

My daughter only stayed that long as she was saving for a house deposit. She's her fiancé's problem now 😂