In a few weeks I’m going for a night out with a few girlfriends. One who I haven’t seen in a very long time. The plan originally was to go out for a meal then some drinks and DH was going to pick me up, now the plan is to just go for drinks. The problem is I really don’t want to drink alcohol, it sounds easy that I can just say I’m not drinking but it’s always oh why do you have to be boring etc etc. I used to love a drink and would always be the first up dancing and the life of a party doing shots and letting my hair down but as I’ve got a bit older I get extreme anxiety the next day worrying about what I said or how I acted even thought I can remember the whole night, even if I have a few glasses of wine I get this crippling anxiety which lasts for days! The girls I’m going out with know how bad my anxiety is as they’ve seen me a day after a drinking session and know how bad it affects me. They both have children whereas I don’t so they see it as a night off, I suppose they expect me to get wasted with them because I don’t have children either so can’t use that as a reason for not drinking too much. For context I’m 26. Could I just slyly order my own drinks and pretend ?