I and DH have a lovely relationship, we spend a lot of time together, he helps with the chores, and I believe he is a good man.
However lately I have been feeling underappreciated. He forgot about the valentines day, then the aniversary. I am not normally that bothered about such things but the fact that multiple such occassions don't even register for him, combined with other things is a bit sad. It seems there is not much romance in our lives. I often suggest we drop our DD to our friends (who have offered multiple times) and go for a date or just spend some quality time together and he always says yes, but never mentiones it again unless I bring it up. We don't have sex much because of a small DD and being tired a lot.
Then this friend of mine comes to visit, and she's recently single. She's looking all fresh and quite fit, going on about how happy she is, how she's doing community work, will be volunteering in Africa over the summer etc and I see my DH's eyes light up. They have an energetic conversation about things and he just seems so excited. Then she needs to go and he offers to give her a lift to the train station. He blows me a kiss on the way out but I am feeling a bit miffed. Only a couple of days earlier I was travelling back from London arriving at night and he told me to just get a cab :-/
When he comes back I am not very happy. He comes to me to see why I am upset but as I tell him he quickly gets a bit offended that I don't trust him etc and not really spoken to me since for a few hours now.
I am just baffled and no idea how to act anymore. It is giving me anxiety as some of my past relationships sort of unravelled this way (I felt the man was getting bored with me and started being anxious.)
AIBU completely? How should you act in such situations? :(