Holiday with just me and dad

[Practicallyperfectwithprosecco]

Family consists of me dh my daughter 15 his daughter 13 and our son 6

I'm a teacher so have all summer free
Dh is struggling to get leave during summer holidays so family holiday won't happen.

Dd13 is going away for 2 weeks with her mum

Dd15 has had a really rough couple of years struggling with mental health issues which we are finally starting to see a light at the end of a horrible tunnel with.

We thought it would be an idea that me and my daughter go away somewhere hot for a week or so so we can have quality mum and daughter time together whilst our other daughter is away with her mum.

That would leave our son at home with dh. Ds would be quite happy at a football academy thing whilst dh is at work so he wouldn't be missing out on fun stuff.

Both my mum and his parents think this is a dreadful idea and if we can't holiday together we shouldn't holiday at all. My best friend then pulled a face when I told her and said it's not what she would do.

So am I being unreasonable and spoiling one child over the others? As I have been told I will be doing?

That should say son not won. 🤦‍♀️

Oh go, you and your dh sound lovely, at the moment you are prioritising the child that needs it most, what could be wrong with that? I think its a great idea

If your son is happy it sounds ideal, perhaps you and your son (or his Dad) could go away for a few days later in the summer.

I can't believe in 2019 people would think we have to abide by suck strict rules about what is "right"?! I think considering the circumstances it could be just what your daughter needs and a lovely boost for her. As well since it used to just be the two of you it might feel extra special.

I think you should go and have the loveliest time. Maybe you could all go away for a weekend as a family if your DP could get a Friday or Monday off, even somewhere like Centre Parks. But as for a proper holiday I wish you and your daughter a wonderful, relaxing time.

Fantastic idea
Do it
They aren’t yours forever and this would be a good for her

DD is going away with her boyfriends family this year and won’t be with us - so do it while you have the chance

Book it!

Ignore the others

Do go, you can't please everyone in life, and your DD will always remember it.

You can't, and in my opinion shouldn't, treat all the DC the same all the time. they all have different needs and likes. As long as you treat them all fairly then thats fine. Have a lovely time.

Sounds lovely - do it!

You can always take your son on his own when he is 15. In fact you could tell your relatives that this is the plan if they keep on about 'fairness'

I think you should do it. DS is having an enjoyable time as is 13 year old DD. No-one is being treated unfairly.

Brilliant idea. One to one with each child is a very important thing to give our children. Each will have that. Go for it.

I took my ds11 to a festival for a weekend and we had the best time, talked loads, when the music was to much went for walks and talked more. my ds 8 was too young and it would of been hell for him.
Making special moments are important and no one enjoys the same things all the time.

I would definitely do it :)

Sounds good to me. Your not spoiling dd, your other dd is getting a holiday as well and ds will get some time with just his dad I think it sounds great!!

Being fair to all your children doesn't necessarily mean treating them all the same, all the time. It sounds as if you are coming up with a summer holiday solution which will result in everybody feeling they have had a special treat, catered to their individual likes. You know your family best.

Sounds lovely! Me and DH both do separate breaks with DS as well as together. It's good to have some one to one time and it will be hugely beneficial to your daughter if she's coming out of a tough time.

Definitely do it, sounds like your DD needs it.

Great idea, we get so little one to one time with our kids how ever old they are, go for it

So everyone in your immediate family is happy with this? Yet you are concerned about the views of people outside your home?

You need to work out why gaining their approval/ permission is of any relevance when the plan is clearly well thought out and works for you.

Sounds like a lovely idea to me

Sounds like bliss Practicallyperfectwithprosecco, who cares what people who don't live your life think.

Sounds a good idea to me. My 3DC are grown up now but they were treated as individuals and not just as 'family'. I went Interailing round Italy with eldest when she was 17 (not my choice!), middle child enjoyed many weeks on (expensive😬) activity holidays on his own, Youngest DD was into anything horsey and lovey pony club camps.
Each child needs one-to-one time alone with a parent, not always possible, but highly recommended.
If your son is ok with it ignore anyone else's opinion.

Definitely do it! Sounds like it's not going to piss off or hurt anyone that it actually affects (ie: your DH, DS and DSD) - ignore everyone else and enjoy!

Do it, do it! DH and DS can do something nice (dinner out? Theme park trip?) at the weekend while you're away so he gets a treat too. I would have loved going away with just my mum as a teen and she's now very disabled so it's not possible. You just never know what might happen in the future.

Go

You know it’s the right thing to do. You won’t regret it.

DSD is off with her Mum, DS will be playing football and getting alone time with Dad.

You and DD will be doing something nice together. Something not revolving around the younger two, for once.

It’s bonkers that anyone thinks this is a bad idea.

GO GO GO

...before she’s all grown up & off with her mates!

Definitely go!!! Think it will do your DD a world of good and you could have a great time bonding together!!

Thanks all glad the majority think it's ok! Just eye rolling from family and friends that made me doubt the decision.

DS will have a great time with dad and we were planning on a short break for the 5 of us in October half term so all kids get holiday together at some point.