Does anyone here have 3+ DC and keep your house spotless?

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Is this a thing? Because if it is tell me how you do it.
I can clean this house from top to
Bottom. The next day it's back to a pig sty again and i find it really difficult to keep on top of 24/7. We have 6 people living here, including myself and I am having to clean up after every single one of them. Honestly DP is one of those "what have u done all day" guys and it's pissing me off. He has a 14 year old daughter who lives with us and is really messy, she'll eat crisps or chocolate or whatever and leaves her rubbish on the living room floor. We have 3 DC together aged 5, 6 (almost 7) and 1 and yes they're children but I try to get them to clean up after themselves. Only the 1 year old seems to help me with chores (she likes to put the washing in the dryer for me etc).
DP and I have had yet another argument about this and I'm sick of it, no matter what I do it so no one bloody listens and then I'm the one who's made out to be living like a pig 🐷
Trust me, if I had the money to LTB I'd have left a long time ago

Stop doing anything.

Then when he asks what you’ve been doing all day you can tell him honestly. Nothing.

I used to be married to a twat who used to ask me that, and never ever did any housework/childcare himself.

He’s an ex.

It's bloody hard work. Me, dh, four dc (14,8,5 and 4) a dog and a cat that likes to vomit fur balls.
Dh is at work 8-6 so the majority all of it falls to me. I'm a sahm. I have to stay on top of it or everything just turns to ratshit.
I don't have any magical answers I'm afraid,I feel like a hamster on a wheel. I get the kids to tidy up after themselves, and the older two have jobs to do (dishwasher/taking laundry up) I make them tidy up their rooms every night before bed.
But a week of half term has nearly finished me off!

no! i clean my house every morning and by the end of the day it’s back to square one again! i’ve just accepted that my house will never be a show home. kids are messy little creatures aren’t they! luckily my boyfriend is very handy with a hoover and mop but if he didn’t help i’d be tempted to do nothing to make him see just how much hard work it is cleaning up after kids all the bloody time!

My house is an unholy shit tip. I work part-time, my husband works full-time, and we've 4 kids aged 8,6,3,3. It is fucking impossible!! I do try, my husband does his fair share, and I am trying to teach the kids the basics of tidying and so on, but......shit tip

You have to enforce rules, my dcs are 12 and 11.
mine are,
no eating and drinking (except water ) upstairs.Dcs not us!
Wash hands when coming in from the garden/football etc
Spill something downstairs you clean it up.
Eat something (other than meals cooked by me) you clear away, ie dcs get their breakfast and put plates/glasses in dishwasher after.
No shoes in house, if they are not put in the cupboard every time Dog will eat them so good incentive..
5pm tidy of games and toy stuff, into big cupboards before dinner.
Clothes not put in the laundry don't get washed.

Mine have had to stick to these since 5, so you could introduce these rules ( or ones to suit you)

Mine also, lay the table, peel vegetables, clear the table and load dishwasher, hang laundry, put theirs away and clean and feed pets daily.Tidy rooms when asked.

No is not a response in my house, it gets 'you live here so it is fair you help'
An argument would get a punishment.
As a child l had way more chores than that, so l just expect help.

Clean during the week when I've been on maternity... well half the house normally. But weekends it's utter chaos and I'm going back to work now so...

4 dcs here and both me and DH work full time our house is usually a tip but we have both been off this half term so it's looking presentable and I actually managed to catch up with the dirty washing (it's taken all week!) now poor DH has to iron it all. I would love to have a clean and tidy house and if I had more cash I would definitely have a cleaner, until then it will be weekends of cleaning and tackling laundry mountains 😭